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<blockquote data-quote="Nomad" data-source="post: 761478" data-attributes="member: 4152"><p>I understand, Busy. It’s uncanny how similar Kay is to our daughter. It’s all uncanny. And tragic.</p><p>If this was God’s will …I don’t want to know about it. I struggle to pray lately. I just got off the phone with a very close friend. Her other close friend was , fir lack of a better word, totally abandoned by her adopted son once he became an adult. He wanted her to give him a chunk of money to but a house. She said no as she was retiring etc. She never heard from him again.</p><p>A dear relative of mine who has cancer and recuperated not too ling ago from a scary case of Covid told me my story is more stressful than anything he has been through. Geez that hit home. He taught me to look at good things in my life and quietly thank G-d fir them. Even the littlest of things like a good parking space. This is of great help. The only reason I mention it is to share something positive that has been helpful.</p><p></p><p>PS We know if a you g couple…distant relatives that adopted. They were subtly warned. WE on the other hand had no clue. They thought they could handle it. He is young, but it’s been heck. I found out a tiny bit about his background. I shared it with an older psychologist I know from where I use to live. Told her the behaviors and the little I knew from the young fella’s background. I asked fir her to tell me honestly what his chances are of doing more or less ok in life. Her answer “0.” Wth. I was shocked. I found myself almost mad at her. Not any more. Im in a strange pitiful state of unpleasant awareness…combined with shock and sorrow.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nomad, post: 761478, member: 4152"] I understand, Busy. It’s uncanny how similar Kay is to our daughter. It’s all uncanny. And tragic. If this was God’s will …I don’t want to know about it. I struggle to pray lately. I just got off the phone with a very close friend. Her other close friend was , fir lack of a better word, totally abandoned by her adopted son once he became an adult. He wanted her to give him a chunk of money to but a house. She said no as she was retiring etc. She never heard from him again. A dear relative of mine who has cancer and recuperated not too ling ago from a scary case of Covid told me my story is more stressful than anything he has been through. Geez that hit home. He taught me to look at good things in my life and quietly thank G-d fir them. Even the littlest of things like a good parking space. This is of great help. The only reason I mention it is to share something positive that has been helpful. PS We know if a you g couple…distant relatives that adopted. They were subtly warned. WE on the other hand had no clue. They thought they could handle it. He is young, but it’s been heck. I found out a tiny bit about his background. I shared it with an older psychologist I know from where I use to live. Told her the behaviors and the little I knew from the young fella’s background. I asked fir her to tell me honestly what his chances are of doing more or less ok in life. Her answer “0.” Wth. I was shocked. I found myself almost mad at her. Not any more. Im in a strange pitiful state of unpleasant awareness…combined with shock and sorrow. [/QUOTE]
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