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<blockquote data-quote="Nomad" data-source="post: 761484" data-attributes="member: 4152"><p>“One is in and out of jail/hospital and has had her kids taken by cps”. Kid (s). Sigh .</p><p></p><p>Due to my health issues, it very likely would of changed my mind if I knew the truth of what is often (not 100percent but a very high percentage) going on.</p><p></p><p>One of my friends was either lied to or misled by the social worker when she adopted. Everyone from that agency was full of xxxx. Her daughter was about three. They said she had two other placements prior and made some reasonable excuses as why they didn’t work out. Her daughter was nightmarish with many issues and also became an alcoholic. One day her husband got on the train to go to work and never returned. Anyway, she kept on asking fir help and to her shock a different social worker told her the full story. The child had 15 placements prior because each family felt she was a danger to them or their other children. Her child was now around 16. School was a huge issue…constantly being sent home. (I had that issue too fri twelve years). She threatened to sue them for lying snd instead they worked out a deal snd sent her daughter to boarding school for a year. For free. She had a year off from hell. </p><p></p><p>In retrospect..we believed we were misled as well. Not as severe as my friend…but clearly misled as well as important info was withheld. Don’t want to go into details right now. But we absolutely were not told about the rampant mental illness on both sides of the family. And that her mother had severe mental illness and had a criminal past. The social worker indicated the father was a drug user and implied that the mother didn’t seem to be. A skeleton on the real truth. They knew I didn’t want to adopt of the mom was a drug user. It’s all surreal now.</p><p></p><p>I’m sure it’s very possible the mom lied to the agency and the agency either lied to the social worker or told her to shut up or no one wanted to investigate too deeply. And took at face value what they were told or looked the other way. They told me the baby had a perfect Apgar score. I really doubt that.</p><p></p><p></p><p> Hope and pray that there is more honesty in these adoptions today…hiwever I know of an extended relative who adopted about ten years ago…SMH. He has many issues. After adoption they found out a whopper piece of background info. Who knew this was such a risky endeavor.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nomad, post: 761484, member: 4152"] “One is in and out of jail/hospital and has had her kids taken by cps”. Kid (s). Sigh . Due to my health issues, it very likely would of changed my mind if I knew the truth of what is often (not 100percent but a very high percentage) going on. One of my friends was either lied to or misled by the social worker when she adopted. Everyone from that agency was full of xxxx. Her daughter was about three. They said she had two other placements prior and made some reasonable excuses as why they didn’t work out. Her daughter was nightmarish with many issues and also became an alcoholic. One day her husband got on the train to go to work and never returned. Anyway, she kept on asking fir help and to her shock a different social worker told her the full story. The child had 15 placements prior because each family felt she was a danger to them or their other children. Her child was now around 16. School was a huge issue…constantly being sent home. (I had that issue too fri twelve years). She threatened to sue them for lying snd instead they worked out a deal snd sent her daughter to boarding school for a year. For free. She had a year off from hell. In retrospect..we believed we were misled as well. Not as severe as my friend…but clearly misled as well as important info was withheld. Don’t want to go into details right now. But we absolutely were not told about the rampant mental illness on both sides of the family. And that her mother had severe mental illness and had a criminal past. The social worker indicated the father was a drug user and implied that the mother didn’t seem to be. A skeleton on the real truth. They knew I didn’t want to adopt of the mom was a drug user. It’s all surreal now. I’m sure it’s very possible the mom lied to the agency and the agency either lied to the social worker or told her to shut up or no one wanted to investigate too deeply. And took at face value what they were told or looked the other way. They told me the baby had a perfect Apgar score. I really doubt that. Hope and pray that there is more honesty in these adoptions today…hiwever I know of an extended relative who adopted about ten years ago…SMH. He has many issues. After adoption they found out a whopper piece of background info. Who knew this was such a risky endeavor. [/QUOTE]
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