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Adult child choosing to be homeless
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<blockquote data-quote="Tanya M" data-source="post: 653209" data-attributes="member: 18516"><p>Hi Caybre,</p><p></p><p>I'm glad you found this site. There are so many here that have been through what you are going through. You are not alone.</p><p></p><p>My son is also homeless / couch surfing. He is 33. I know how you feel. First and foremost, you are not to blame and you have no reason to feel guilty. You did not create the mess he's in. Our adult children make their own choices and we have NO control over what they do. He is an adult and should be taking care of himself.</p><p></p><p>There is a good article about detachment at the top of the Parent Emeritus forum.</p><p></p><p>No, letting go and detaching does not mean that you don't love him or care about him. You are allowing him to hold your emotions hostage and he knows it. He is counting on you feeling guilty so you will give in and rescue him. You cannot help someone who does not also put forth effort to change the situation.</p><p>If you do anything for him you will be enabling him not helping him.</p><p></p><p>This is not an easy journey to be on but know that you are not alone in your heartache.</p><p></p><p>You will get more responses by starting a "new thread" I will do that for you and move your post.</p><p></p><p>((HUGS)) to you.....</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tanya M, post: 653209, member: 18516"] Hi Caybre, I'm glad you found this site. There are so many here that have been through what you are going through. You are not alone. My son is also homeless / couch surfing. He is 33. I know how you feel. First and foremost, you are not to blame and you have no reason to feel guilty. You did not create the mess he's in. Our adult children make their own choices and we have NO control over what they do. He is an adult and should be taking care of himself. There is a good article about detachment at the top of the Parent Emeritus forum. No, letting go and detaching does not mean that you don't love him or care about him. You are allowing him to hold your emotions hostage and he knows it. He is counting on you feeling guilty so you will give in and rescue him. You cannot help someone who does not also put forth effort to change the situation. If you do anything for him you will be enabling him not helping him. This is not an easy journey to be on but know that you are not alone in your heartache. You will get more responses by starting a "new thread" I will do that for you and move your post. ((HUGS)) to you..... [/QUOTE]
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