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<blockquote data-quote="Iamtiredandsad2" data-source="post: 752174" data-attributes="member: 24532"><p>Yes. My mistake was allowing her to move into my home. The reasons given to me were "shady". He said she had to leave her parents home due to private matters with a family member. My son's quote: "you can't punish the victim." He knew I would say OK even though I did not want this type of drama in my home. I knew nothing of this girl. They only lasted one week in my home because of the drama she brought in. She was bad news. I put my foot down and the guilt and manipulation was thrown at me in order for them to gain extra time. I refused to give into this. That's why I told him they had to leave. I wish I didn't have to do this ;but I also understood that I was being taken advantage of. Deep down I know it was the right decision; however the loneliness and estrangement is there. Unfortunately, I believe we will never have the mother/son relationship of the past. I find myself being jealous knowing that her parents spend time with them (even though she supposedly was fleeing an abusive household) but I am not allowed to even visit him. I know I was a good parent and wanted him to live a better life than I had. Although I was a college graduate, there were hardships when raising him on my own. I wanted him to learn how to overcome obstacles, complete school and have success in life. The life he has now is not what I dreamed for him, but I tried to be as supportive as possible. I find myself in a vicious circle - finding fault and blaming. I want to learn how to find contentment for myself from here on.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Iamtiredandsad2, post: 752174, member: 24532"] Yes. My mistake was allowing her to move into my home. The reasons given to me were "shady". He said she had to leave her parents home due to private matters with a family member. My son's quote: "you can't punish the victim." He knew I would say OK even though I did not want this type of drama in my home. I knew nothing of this girl. They only lasted one week in my home because of the drama she brought in. She was bad news. I put my foot down and the guilt and manipulation was thrown at me in order for them to gain extra time. I refused to give into this. That's why I told him they had to leave. I wish I didn't have to do this ;but I also understood that I was being taken advantage of. Deep down I know it was the right decision; however the loneliness and estrangement is there. Unfortunately, I believe we will never have the mother/son relationship of the past. I find myself being jealous knowing that her parents spend time with them (even though she supposedly was fleeing an abusive household) but I am not allowed to even visit him. I know I was a good parent and wanted him to live a better life than I had. Although I was a college graduate, there were hardships when raising him on my own. I wanted him to learn how to overcome obstacles, complete school and have success in life. The life he has now is not what I dreamed for him, but I tried to be as supportive as possible. I find myself in a vicious circle - finding fault and blaming. I want to learn how to find contentment for myself from here on. [/QUOTE]
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