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Adult daughter living with me on drugs
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<blockquote data-quote="toughlovin" data-source="post: 656881" data-attributes="member: 15801"><p>OK I work in the field of domestic violence and there are many many reasons why women stay with abusers. It can be very difficult as well as very dangerous to leave an abusive relationship. One of the tactics of abusers is to isolate their partners which makes it even harder to leave. Tough love does not work when dealling with domestic violence.... all it does is send the victim into the hands of the abuser and makes it harder to leave. So my advice to parents whose children are in an abusive relationship is to do everything you can to maintain your relationship with your child, let them know you love them and that you are willing to help them when and if they decide to leave.</p><p></p><p>Now drug use of course makes this all much much harder.</p><p></p><p>I do think it is important for paretns to have clear boundaries and limits and this applies to both drug use and abusive relationships.</p><p></p><p>The most dangerous time for a woman in an abusive relationship is when she leaves. I agree with you that the responsibilty for any adult is take care of their won affairs.... parents can not do this for their children. But parents can be supportive and can show love... and sometimes it is a very tricky line to walk between loving and enabling. I dont think it is always as clear cut as you seem to believe.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="toughlovin, post: 656881, member: 15801"] OK I work in the field of domestic violence and there are many many reasons why women stay with abusers. It can be very difficult as well as very dangerous to leave an abusive relationship. One of the tactics of abusers is to isolate their partners which makes it even harder to leave. Tough love does not work when dealling with domestic violence.... all it does is send the victim into the hands of the abuser and makes it harder to leave. So my advice to parents whose children are in an abusive relationship is to do everything you can to maintain your relationship with your child, let them know you love them and that you are willing to help them when and if they decide to leave. Now drug use of course makes this all much much harder. I do think it is important for paretns to have clear boundaries and limits and this applies to both drug use and abusive relationships. The most dangerous time for a woman in an abusive relationship is when she leaves. I agree with you that the responsibilty for any adult is take care of their won affairs.... parents can not do this for their children. But parents can be supportive and can show love... and sometimes it is a very tricky line to walk between loving and enabling. I dont think it is always as clear cut as you seem to believe. [/QUOTE]
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