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Adult Daughter Stealing from her mother
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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 723555" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>Scared mother, I'm glad you've chosen to attend 12 step meetings and get yourself into therapy. Those 2 choices will help you in many, many ways. This is a devastating path for us parents, more often than not, we need professional support to get thru it. </p><p></p><p>I have an older daughter who is a challenge too. It takes awhile for us to walk thru this terrain and learn how to detach and accept what is. You may find solace in reading the article on detachment at the bottom of my post here. </p><p></p><p>As SWOT mentioned, the book Codependent no more, by Melodie Beattie is an excellent resource. As are books by Pema Chodron and Eckhart Tolle who teach about learning to live in chaos and uncertainty and staying in the present moment, not future tripping or living in the past. </p><p></p><p>Any support you can find for YOU leads the way for us to find true joy and peace for ourselves, regardless of what our kids are doing or not doing. It takes time, it's a process, we often require lots of support and guidance, but it is doable. </p><p></p><p>Hang in there, I know how difficult it is. Get yourself a good support system, develop a "tool box" of supportive things you do for yourself when you are feeling pulled into your daughter's lifestyle choices and dramas. Keep posting, it helps so much to write our stories down and have others who understand and won't judge listen and respond.....it makes a huge difference to be heard. </p><p></p><p>You're not alone. We're all here with you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 723555, member: 13542"] Scared mother, I'm glad you've chosen to attend 12 step meetings and get yourself into therapy. Those 2 choices will help you in many, many ways. This is a devastating path for us parents, more often than not, we need professional support to get thru it. I have an older daughter who is a challenge too. It takes awhile for us to walk thru this terrain and learn how to detach and accept what is. You may find solace in reading the article on detachment at the bottom of my post here. As SWOT mentioned, the book Codependent no more, by Melodie Beattie is an excellent resource. As are books by Pema Chodron and Eckhart Tolle who teach about learning to live in chaos and uncertainty and staying in the present moment, not future tripping or living in the past. Any support you can find for YOU leads the way for us to find true joy and peace for ourselves, regardless of what our kids are doing or not doing. It takes time, it's a process, we often require lots of support and guidance, but it is doable. Hang in there, I know how difficult it is. Get yourself a good support system, develop a "tool box" of supportive things you do for yourself when you are feeling pulled into your daughter's lifestyle choices and dramas. Keep posting, it helps so much to write our stories down and have others who understand and won't judge listen and respond.....it makes a huge difference to be heard. You're not alone. We're all here with you. [/QUOTE]
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