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Adult daughter stole entire life savings-Part 2
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<blockquote data-quote="Scent of Cedar *" data-source="post: 630027" data-attributes="member: 17461"><p>We think about this, too. In a way, it's the final insult, the deepest cut. Neither child would be able to afford the taxes. And what about those things considered family heirlooms ~ what in the world do we do with those things that mean nothing much and everything in the world?</p><p></p><p>The history of a family...gone.</p><p></p><p>The future of a family, destroyed.</p><p></p><p>I do think about this question. </p><p></p><p>difficult child daughter had been given all the old family photo albums, all the old family movies. She loves to watch those old movies, kept the photo albums out to be looked through by anyone, went through them often with her kids.</p><p></p><p>All those irreplaceable things are gone, now.</p><p></p><p>Given everything else that is destroyed, I know I shouldn't even be thinking about those kinds of family history things. This question of what to do with whatever is left has me thinking about that, this morning.</p><p></p><p>There are other things too, of course, that have been lost or sold.</p><p> </p><p></p><p></p><p>Untimely demise.... difficult child son told me once that he'd had his tarots read. He was to come into his inheritance at 42, he said, meaningfully.</p><p></p><p>It was chilling. </p><p></p><p>These are the woundings we don't talk about, don't post about, the words we hardly let ourselves know our child spoke.</p><p></p><p>I'm sure I took it wrong. Truthfully, I suppose we all think about the natures of our inheritances.</p><p></p><p>difficult child just turned 39.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>That would be the scariest thing imaginable ~ to be dependent on either of my kids for anything.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>There is no one else to take care of us. It is wise to acknowledge that.</p><p></p><p>In fact, we may need protection...and probably will.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Nothing should go to drug addicts. difficult child daughter destroyed or sold everything she had and went through $7000 cash in just a few months. Even the love she felt for her own children could not stop what happened. If we want there to be anything left of whatever we have, it is going to have to go to the grandchildren.</p><p></p><p>I wonder whether the threat of leaving whatever we do have to a specific charity <em>in their names</em> would force our addicted kids into straightening up? </p><p></p><p>It is an interesting question.</p><p></p><p>Tish, I hope you post back to us on how you decided to handle this.</p><p></p><p>Cedar</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scent of Cedar *, post: 630027, member: 17461"] We think about this, too. In a way, it's the final insult, the deepest cut. Neither child would be able to afford the taxes. And what about those things considered family heirlooms ~ what in the world do we do with those things that mean nothing much and everything in the world? The history of a family...gone. The future of a family, destroyed. I do think about this question. difficult child daughter had been given all the old family photo albums, all the old family movies. She loves to watch those old movies, kept the photo albums out to be looked through by anyone, went through them often with her kids. All those irreplaceable things are gone, now. Given everything else that is destroyed, I know I shouldn't even be thinking about those kinds of family history things. This question of what to do with whatever is left has me thinking about that, this morning. There are other things too, of course, that have been lost or sold. Untimely demise.... difficult child son told me once that he'd had his tarots read. He was to come into his inheritance at 42, he said, meaningfully. It was chilling. These are the woundings we don't talk about, don't post about, the words we hardly let ourselves know our child spoke. I'm sure I took it wrong. Truthfully, I suppose we all think about the natures of our inheritances. difficult child just turned 39. That would be the scariest thing imaginable ~ to be dependent on either of my kids for anything. There is no one else to take care of us. It is wise to acknowledge that. In fact, we may need protection...and probably will. Nothing should go to drug addicts. difficult child daughter destroyed or sold everything she had and went through $7000 cash in just a few months. Even the love she felt for her own children could not stop what happened. If we want there to be anything left of whatever we have, it is going to have to go to the grandchildren. I wonder whether the threat of leaving whatever we do have to a specific charity [I]in their names[/I] would force our addicted kids into straightening up? It is an interesting question. Tish, I hope you post back to us on how you decided to handle this. Cedar [/QUOTE]
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