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<blockquote data-quote="jeanne in CA" data-source="post: 627360" data-attributes="member: 18036"><p>Thank you again so much for your replies and prayers. My husband and I have had very different reactions to this entire mess. (He lost his father a year after I lost my mother so he has had his own burden to carry as well. He has told no one, can barely manage to discuss it with me, and the only way he deals with it is by not dealing with it. He said he doesn't want to know all the details because he simply cannot deal with them. He is essentially paralyzed from the whole thing. He is a really good guy but had not been a lot of help in terms of tracking down all the accounts, getting the statements, and telling and retelling our story to institutions. He met with the police twice but I have handled the rest of the twice monthly meetings and the weekly emails from the detective. I am basically okay with this because at least we are very much on the same page regarding what has to happen. </p><p> </p><p>When we first confronted our daughter, she had a year and a half old baby girl whom we absolutely adored. We kept the baby when she and her husband would take trips that we have found out that we paid for. (Las Vegas, the Bellagio, etc.) Since we cut all ties, she decided to have another baby. I firmly believe that she did that on purpose in order to ensure support from her husband once he finds out what she has done, possibly hope for a lighter sentence when that time comes, and no doubt hope that her dad and I would come forward in hopes of seeing the new baby and our little granddaughter again. She texted a cousin of mine about the pregnancy and birth. I have no doubt hoping that we would want to see the children, a fact that would put her back in the driver's seat by holding them hostage for as long as we insist on presecuting her. It has been agony but in the long run, we have to think about what is best for her, her husband, and the two babies. Failing to hold her accountable would do them all a tremendous disservice. </p><p> </p><p>I have meet with all of the banks, credit unions, etc. where she stole money to report the theft. Every one of them said "sucks to be you but we have the money and we are keeping it." I have been turned down by two different attorneys in my attempt to file suit agains them for their lack of fiduciary responsibilities and both times I have been told the case is too big for them to handle. I think the sad fact is that no one wants to take on the banks. Some of the checks she stole, forged, and cashed at my own bank where they had my signature on file! As for thinking we might get any type of restitution from her, that seems totally unrealistic, she has nothing. Even the house they live in, he bought before they were married, and we wouldn't want to do anything that would jeopardize either him or the babies. We are hoping that at some point our son-in-law will need our help with the children. </p><p> </p><p>Recovering enabler, just when I thought I was the only one out there who has experienced anything like this, I find someone my own age, living in the same area. Thank you all again so much.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="jeanne in CA, post: 627360, member: 18036"] Thank you again so much for your replies and prayers. My husband and I have had very different reactions to this entire mess. (He lost his father a year after I lost my mother so he has had his own burden to carry as well. He has told no one, can barely manage to discuss it with me, and the only way he deals with it is by not dealing with it. He said he doesn't want to know all the details because he simply cannot deal with them. He is essentially paralyzed from the whole thing. He is a really good guy but had not been a lot of help in terms of tracking down all the accounts, getting the statements, and telling and retelling our story to institutions. He met with the police twice but I have handled the rest of the twice monthly meetings and the weekly emails from the detective. I am basically okay with this because at least we are very much on the same page regarding what has to happen. When we first confronted our daughter, she had a year and a half old baby girl whom we absolutely adored. We kept the baby when she and her husband would take trips that we have found out that we paid for. (Las Vegas, the Bellagio, etc.) Since we cut all ties, she decided to have another baby. I firmly believe that she did that on purpose in order to ensure support from her husband once he finds out what she has done, possibly hope for a lighter sentence when that time comes, and no doubt hope that her dad and I would come forward in hopes of seeing the new baby and our little granddaughter again. She texted a cousin of mine about the pregnancy and birth. I have no doubt hoping that we would want to see the children, a fact that would put her back in the driver's seat by holding them hostage for as long as we insist on presecuting her. It has been agony but in the long run, we have to think about what is best for her, her husband, and the two babies. Failing to hold her accountable would do them all a tremendous disservice. I have meet with all of the banks, credit unions, etc. where she stole money to report the theft. Every one of them said "sucks to be you but we have the money and we are keeping it." I have been turned down by two different attorneys in my attempt to file suit agains them for their lack of fiduciary responsibilities and both times I have been told the case is too big for them to handle. I think the sad fact is that no one wants to take on the banks. Some of the checks she stole, forged, and cashed at my own bank where they had my signature on file! As for thinking we might get any type of restitution from her, that seems totally unrealistic, she has nothing. Even the house they live in, he bought before they were married, and we wouldn't want to do anything that would jeopardize either him or the babies. We are hoping that at some point our son-in-law will need our help with the children. Recovering enabler, just when I thought I was the only one out there who has experienced anything like this, I find someone my own age, living in the same area. Thank you all again so much. [/QUOTE]
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