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<blockquote data-quote="toughlovin" data-source="post: 642022" data-attributes="member: 15801"><p>Hi Pam,</p><p></p><p>We also kicked out son out when he was 18. It was hard and awful but he was out of control and I had a younger daughter to consider. I have to say it is amazing when you realize that once again your home is your sanctuary and you enjoy being home. Your kids are adults and you deserve to have peace in your own home.</p><p></p><p>I cant say that it was an easy road after we did that. It has been a long tough crazy roller coaster but at least in my own home I felt some peace and enjoyed being there. My son is now 23 and after many various treatments he is living on his own with his girlfriend in another state. He is doing better than he has been and I think this girlfriend is a stabalizing influence. I know he is drinking and most likely smoking weed.... but I no longer ask questions about it or comment about it because it does not directly affect me any more. I dont approve but I know he has to figure things out for himself. And slowly he seems to be maybe doing that. Time will tell.</p><p></p><p>I will say that we are having better conversations over the phone than we have had... our relationship seems to be improving and that means a lot... but again time will tell.</p><p></p><p>It is very very hard when you have to kick a kid out of the house but I know without a doubt that our lives would be much much worse if we had not done this. My daughter is doing great, is in college and doing very well. I have the feeling if we had not done what we did that she would have developed some issues just continuing to live in the chaos that our home was when my sone was here. And honestly I think my son would probably be worse off (or dead) if we had let him live here using drugs with no consequences.</p><p></p><p>TL</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="toughlovin, post: 642022, member: 15801"] Hi Pam, We also kicked out son out when he was 18. It was hard and awful but he was out of control and I had a younger daughter to consider. I have to say it is amazing when you realize that once again your home is your sanctuary and you enjoy being home. Your kids are adults and you deserve to have peace in your own home. I cant say that it was an easy road after we did that. It has been a long tough crazy roller coaster but at least in my own home I felt some peace and enjoyed being there. My son is now 23 and after many various treatments he is living on his own with his girlfriend in another state. He is doing better than he has been and I think this girlfriend is a stabalizing influence. I know he is drinking and most likely smoking weed.... but I no longer ask questions about it or comment about it because it does not directly affect me any more. I dont approve but I know he has to figure things out for himself. And slowly he seems to be maybe doing that. Time will tell. I will say that we are having better conversations over the phone than we have had... our relationship seems to be improving and that means a lot... but again time will tell. It is very very hard when you have to kick a kid out of the house but I know without a doubt that our lives would be much much worse if we had not done this. My daughter is doing great, is in college and doing very well. I have the feeling if we had not done what we did that she would have developed some issues just continuing to live in the chaos that our home was when my sone was here. And honestly I think my son would probably be worse off (or dead) if we had let him live here using drugs with no consequences. TL [/QUOTE]
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