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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 708287" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>It sounds to me as if your parents may also have aspergers or some form of autism/mental illness. You may want to get Social Services/Elder Care involved in an anonymous way (if this is possible) if you think your parents are being taken advantage of. Of course, I wonder how much your siblings are capable of caring for themselves. They may need the help of Social Services to get SSI set up to help them if they are disabled enough by their aspergers that they are not capable of working. </p><p></p><p>Other than reporting this as possible financial elder abuse, I don't think there is much you can do. MAYBE encouraging the family to have your siblings sign up for SSI? But otherwise, that is about it.</p><p></p><p>I think you need to be clear in your own mind about what you will be willing to do to help your siblings cope when your parents are gone. What you will be willing and able to give, and for how long you will be willing to give it, is something that you need to think about. You do NOT need to make a point of telling anyone about it You just need to be clear in your own mind about what you are going to do.</p><p></p><p>This is pretty much all you can do about this. I know it hurts to see your parents taken advantage of, but it is their choice. Unless they are not competent to manage their own money, there is truly nothing that you can do. Now if they are giving themselves into poverty, then the question of competency may be something that needs to be addressed by a court. But that doesn't sound like the case.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 708287, member: 1233"] It sounds to me as if your parents may also have aspergers or some form of autism/mental illness. You may want to get Social Services/Elder Care involved in an anonymous way (if this is possible) if you think your parents are being taken advantage of. Of course, I wonder how much your siblings are capable of caring for themselves. They may need the help of Social Services to get SSI set up to help them if they are disabled enough by their aspergers that they are not capable of working. Other than reporting this as possible financial elder abuse, I don't think there is much you can do. MAYBE encouraging the family to have your siblings sign up for SSI? But otherwise, that is about it. I think you need to be clear in your own mind about what you will be willing to do to help your siblings cope when your parents are gone. What you will be willing and able to give, and for how long you will be willing to give it, is something that you need to think about. You do NOT need to make a point of telling anyone about it You just need to be clear in your own mind about what you are going to do. This is pretty much all you can do about this. I know it hurts to see your parents taken advantage of, but it is their choice. Unless they are not competent to manage their own money, there is truly nothing that you can do. Now if they are giving themselves into poverty, then the question of competency may be something that needs to be addressed by a court. But that doesn't sound like the case. [/QUOTE]
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