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<blockquote data-quote="Nomad" data-source="post: 708328" data-attributes="member: 4152"><p>I would encourage your parents to have your oldest sibling move out immediately. Help to analyze what that would take and see what steps could be done to make that happen. See if you could have any other mentally healthy siblings support you in this endeavor. I would also tell your parents, when the second oldest sibling turns 35, time for him to go as well. This means your second sibling would likely have a little warning, so it wont be as difficult of a move. Let him know that he'll need to move out by his next birthday and that this is actually a good and positive thing.</p><p></p><p>Think about what types of support services have been of most help to you in your career and so forth and see if they would apply to your siblings.</p><p></p><p>If your older siblings truly have difficulties, it might not be a very bad idea for them to move relatively close by to your parents. But, it is abusive for adult men to live within the home of their elderly parents and to completely rely on them.</p><p></p><p>They should be as independent as possible. This should be their goal, intention and eventual outcome.</p><p></p><p>A Dad makes a good point re: concentrating your efforts on the youngest. Also, encouraging any of your siblings who are already working to continue working and to be self sufficient.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nomad, post: 708328, member: 4152"] I would encourage your parents to have your oldest sibling move out immediately. Help to analyze what that would take and see what steps could be done to make that happen. See if you could have any other mentally healthy siblings support you in this endeavor. I would also tell your parents, when the second oldest sibling turns 35, time for him to go as well. This means your second sibling would likely have a little warning, so it wont be as difficult of a move. Let him know that he'll need to move out by his next birthday and that this is actually a good and positive thing. Think about what types of support services have been of most help to you in your career and so forth and see if they would apply to your siblings. If your older siblings truly have difficulties, it might not be a very bad idea for them to move relatively close by to your parents. But, it is abusive for adult men to live within the home of their elderly parents and to completely rely on them. They should be as independent as possible. This should be their goal, intention and eventual outcome. A Dad makes a good point re: concentrating your efforts on the youngest. Also, encouraging any of your siblings who are already working to continue working and to be self sufficient. [/QUOTE]
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