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<blockquote data-quote="JKF" data-source="post: 632738" data-attributes="member: 12470"><p>You're right. I believe it's often a show for others. There are times when he pretends he is someone else announcing his death. Like "Hi this is difficult child's friend and difficult child commited suicide. RIP difficult child". It's so sickeningly disturbing. </p><p></p><p> </p><p>I think I'm going to just so they have an idea of what truly goes on. I honestly don't think it will make a difference but difficult child is so manipulative and cunning and I know he spins them right around his finger. He tells everyone how he was abused and how his family doesn't want him. He plays victim when in reality he's the assailant.</p><p></p><p> </p><p>You're 100% right Lucy and I think I'm forgetting that. It's not me. It's him. If it was me I would be doing everything I could to get myself some help. He obviously doesn't want to and that's his decision.</p><p></p><p>So on that note, I decided that I'm going to do 3 things that I feel I need to do and then step back. First, I am going to get a copy of his BC today. According to him that's the <strong>main</strong> reason why he can't apply for services. Supposedly he has had no way to get to the office of vital statistics and doesn't have the $20 required to pay for it. So I'll get it but this will be the <strong>LAST</strong> time I ever do so. Second, I will visit him tonight (for the first time in a year) and bring the BC plus the few remaining clothes he has in my home. Lastly, I will print out any resources and applications I can find today to places that might be able to help him. I will give him those tonight and tell him it's up to him to follow up. If he doesn't that's on him. I plan to be firm with him tonight and remind him that this is his responsibility. We love him but can not help him. Only he can help himself at this point. I will also remind him that if he shows up at our home he will be asked to leave and that if he doesn't the police will be called. </p><p></p><p>I am a little nervous about seeing him but I feel like it's something I need to do in order to move forward.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="JKF, post: 632738, member: 12470"] You're right. I believe it's often a show for others. There are times when he pretends he is someone else announcing his death. Like "Hi this is difficult child's friend and difficult child commited suicide. RIP difficult child". It's so sickeningly disturbing. I think I'm going to just so they have an idea of what truly goes on. I honestly don't think it will make a difference but difficult child is so manipulative and cunning and I know he spins them right around his finger. He tells everyone how he was abused and how his family doesn't want him. He plays victim when in reality he's the assailant. You're 100% right Lucy and I think I'm forgetting that. It's not me. It's him. If it was me I would be doing everything I could to get myself some help. He obviously doesn't want to and that's his decision. So on that note, I decided that I'm going to do 3 things that I feel I need to do and then step back. First, I am going to get a copy of his BC today. According to him that's the [B]main[/B] reason why he can't apply for services. Supposedly he has had no way to get to the office of vital statistics and doesn't have the $20 required to pay for it. So I'll get it but this will be the [B]LAST[/B] time I ever do so. Second, I will visit him tonight (for the first time in a year) and bring the BC plus the few remaining clothes he has in my home. Lastly, I will print out any resources and applications I can find today to places that might be able to help him. I will give him those tonight and tell him it's up to him to follow up. If he doesn't that's on him. I plan to be firm with him tonight and remind him that this is his responsibility. We love him but can not help him. Only he can help himself at this point. I will also remind him that if he shows up at our home he will be asked to leave and that if he doesn't the police will be called. I am a little nervous about seeing him but I feel like it's something I need to do in order to move forward. [/QUOTE]
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