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Adult son in legal trouble again
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<blockquote data-quote="worried sick mother" data-source="post: 702394" data-attributes="member: 19069"><p>Welcome to the forum TClark. I so understand the pain you feel. It is paralyzingly when things our children do things out of our control and have to face the consequences. We are parents, it's in our nature to fix everything. What we have to realize is that our fixing is sometimes doing more damage. I have learned that when we don't let our children face the small consequences it leads to bigger consequences. So although prison for a couple years seems tragic, it could be worse. This doesn't make it any easier on you I know. We have all been enablers because we love our children. </p><p> You should try Alanon, it really helps and keep posting here. This site has been a life saver for me . I'm not as strong as some of the others here or I don't feel like I am anyway but it helps me so much just to realize I'm not alone. I become deathly ill when something happens with my son and I'm not happy about it but it took me getting put on an antidepressant just to cope. My son was possibly still is a heroin addict. I have been pretty slow at stopping being an enabler and trying to live my own life but I'm getting there. </p><p> You need to learn to take care of you, you are important and you can only control yourself, you can't control your son. I know it's hard to imagine but maybe this will be the best thing for your son, maybe it's saving him from something much worse. Others with much better advice will be along so stay with us. I'm so sorry for your hurting heart.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="worried sick mother, post: 702394, member: 19069"] Welcome to the forum TClark. I so understand the pain you feel. It is paralyzingly when things our children do things out of our control and have to face the consequences. We are parents, it's in our nature to fix everything. What we have to realize is that our fixing is sometimes doing more damage. I have learned that when we don't let our children face the small consequences it leads to bigger consequences. So although prison for a couple years seems tragic, it could be worse. This doesn't make it any easier on you I know. We have all been enablers because we love our children. You should try Alanon, it really helps and keep posting here. This site has been a life saver for me . I'm not as strong as some of the others here or I don't feel like I am anyway but it helps me so much just to realize I'm not alone. I become deathly ill when something happens with my son and I'm not happy about it but it took me getting put on an antidepressant just to cope. My son was possibly still is a heroin addict. I have been pretty slow at stopping being an enabler and trying to live my own life but I'm getting there. You need to learn to take care of you, you are important and you can only control yourself, you can't control your son. I know it's hard to imagine but maybe this will be the best thing for your son, maybe it's saving him from something much worse. Others with much better advice will be along so stay with us. I'm so sorry for your hurting heart. [/QUOTE]
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