I had posted before that my son lives on the other side of the USA and his girlfriend is leaving him this week unannounced. My husband and I are flying out to be there to support him although I fear he will hate us for not telling him we knew. We can't though because we don't want him to manipulate her into staying. His world will be crushed- she is taking their dog. He will still have his other 3 pets though. He will need to move from his apartment because he can't afford that on his income. He just accepted a new position at work which will make him accepting rehab a very big challenge. He was highly recommended for his new position even though it is a lower salary. He feels it will make him more knowledgeable for when he applies to be a supervisor...... Its ripping my heart out. I know he qualifies for FMLA but not sure if that position will be open when he gets out of rehab - if he goes. If he chooses not to go.... how do I walk away and fly back home knowing what could happen. I know I have to Let go and Let God.... SO very hard. He doesn't drive so he will need to hire a moving company. He will have to take Uber to visit new apartments... SO much to think about. If he accepts rehab... then we need to board his cats... That is costly. They all suggest sober living which I agree because he has no friends there so at least he would have people around him which makes me feel better... that means longer cat boarding... At $15-$25 a day... that will add up. So many things to think about. Praying he finally sees what his alcohol abuse has done.