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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 705311" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Nobody has a perfect life. Nobody.</p><p></p><p>To help ypu I need clarity.</p><p></p><p>You still give anything you have to kids who are in their 30s. Why? Your daughter sounds mean...you won't get what you want from her. She is old enough not to need you at the end of the phone ehen times are tough. Do ypu often give her money? Does she get angry of ypu say no?</p><p></p><p>Your son wants maybe separation from you. He's not little anymore and has his own life. This is normal. My grown kids are close to me but they don't share every detail of their lives with SO with me. </p><p></p><p>I think your biggest mistake is acting too needy and also that you don't have enough going on in your own life without your very adult children. All of us need to learn to live without our adult children and have our own lives. I personally think that sharing everything you have with adults is outrageous. Save what's yours for you! Travel. Join a fitness club. Make friends. Explore new or old hobbies. Go on wonderful date nights with husband. Don't depend on grown kids for companionship. You need peers.</p><p></p><p>Your sister was awful but I don't know what you can do about that, if anything. I am not sure what country you live in, but mum is used more in other countries than the u.s. and every country has its own.laws. Is your mother competent?</p><p></p><p>Sounds like you are the scapegoat of the family. in my opinion build your own life with husband and maybe with the help of a good therapist whom can help you deal with these issues. The latter is my best advice I know of. Seek professional help. It saved me. It can help or even save you too and aid you in finding out how to build a good life and get respect.</p><p></p><p>Best of luck to you. Keep posting!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 705311, member: 1550"] Nobody has a perfect life. Nobody. To help ypu I need clarity. You still give anything you have to kids who are in their 30s. Why? Your daughter sounds mean...you won't get what you want from her. She is old enough not to need you at the end of the phone ehen times are tough. Do ypu often give her money? Does she get angry of ypu say no? Your son wants maybe separation from you. He's not little anymore and has his own life. This is normal. My grown kids are close to me but they don't share every detail of their lives with SO with me. I think your biggest mistake is acting too needy and also that you don't have enough going on in your own life without your very adult children. All of us need to learn to live without our adult children and have our own lives. I personally think that sharing everything you have with adults is outrageous. Save what's yours for you! Travel. Join a fitness club. Make friends. Explore new or old hobbies. Go on wonderful date nights with husband. Don't depend on grown kids for companionship. You need peers. Your sister was awful but I don't know what you can do about that, if anything. I am not sure what country you live in, but mum is used more in other countries than the u.s. and every country has its own.laws. Is your mother competent? Sounds like you are the scapegoat of the family. in my opinion build your own life with husband and maybe with the help of a good therapist whom can help you deal with these issues. The latter is my best advice I know of. Seek professional help. It saved me. It can help or even save you too and aid you in finding out how to build a good life and get respect. Best of luck to you. Keep posting! [/QUOTE]
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