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Adults - but still children in our minds ?
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<blockquote data-quote="Big Bad Kitty" data-source="post: 76514" data-attributes="member: 3647"><p>Hmmm...a few different directions here...</p><p></p><p>On the side of the child...when I was 15, I started to drink and drug. That is when I stopped growing emotionally. I got clean the first time at 20. I was a VERY immature 20 year old. My mom was on me constantly. She is to this day. I am almost 40 now. She calls me at near midnight to tell me that she is worried about me moving to an elevator building because what if Tink gets stuck. She does NOT get on my brothers like this. But she never has had a reason to get on my brothers like this.</p><p></p><p>Which brings me to my other direction that my mind wandered. I have 2 kids, they are 19 and 6. I am raising the 6yo completely different than the older one. She is just a different kid. Tink (the younger one) wakes up, makes herself breakfast, gets dressed and THEN wakes me up to say she is going out to play. Today she cut up an apple (with a butter knife) so she could dip it in peanut butter. Copper (the older one), even at age 8, would wake up, and sit on my bed and stare at me till I woke up. If I had to pick one of my girls to be on Survivor, and take care of herself, it would be Tink. At age 6. She'd win too.</p><p></p><p>Now, I have successfully detached from Copper, as she is out on her own. But I wonder if this whole "knowing your kid is an adult but treating them as a child" has to do with what kind of kid they are? I make a point not to do to Copper what my mom does to me. If she asks for advice, I give it. She does not ask often. If I am going to give unsolicited advice, I do it in private. mostly, I bite my tongue. Like about how much I can't stand her her boyfriend.</p><p></p><p>Have I mentioned, he is a leprechaun?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Big Bad Kitty, post: 76514, member: 3647"] Hmmm...a few different directions here... On the side of the child...when I was 15, I started to drink and drug. That is when I stopped growing emotionally. I got clean the first time at 20. I was a VERY immature 20 year old. My mom was on me constantly. She is to this day. I am almost 40 now. She calls me at near midnight to tell me that she is worried about me moving to an elevator building because what if Tink gets stuck. She does NOT get on my brothers like this. But she never has had a reason to get on my brothers like this. Which brings me to my other direction that my mind wandered. I have 2 kids, they are 19 and 6. I am raising the 6yo completely different than the older one. She is just a different kid. Tink (the younger one) wakes up, makes herself breakfast, gets dressed and THEN wakes me up to say she is going out to play. Today she cut up an apple (with a butter knife) so she could dip it in peanut butter. Copper (the older one), even at age 8, would wake up, and sit on my bed and stare at me till I woke up. If I had to pick one of my girls to be on Survivor, and take care of herself, it would be Tink. At age 6. She'd win too. Now, I have successfully detached from Copper, as she is out on her own. But I wonder if this whole "knowing your kid is an adult but treating them as a child" has to do with what kind of kid they are? I make a point not to do to Copper what my mom does to me. If she asks for advice, I give it. She does not ask often. If I am going to give unsolicited advice, I do it in private. mostly, I bite my tongue. Like about how much I can't stand her her boyfriend. Have I mentioned, he is a leprechaun? [/QUOTE]
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