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Adults - but still children in our minds ?
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<blockquote data-quote="Fran" data-source="post: 76583" data-attributes="member: 3"><p>I can understand that some of you feel you lost your child and how you continue to grieve but in gg's case, she got her daughter back and she is doing ok. </p><p></p><p>I find it very surprising that I don't know my difficult child's work schedule, medication schedule, finances. It is not how I lived the first 21yrs of difficult child's life. I was over scrutinizing his life and it was strangling him in some cases. I pushed back (within reason) and let him run out of money, medications, late for work, etc. I still give him some cues on big issues(big to me) but I am less hyperfocused. difficult child demanded to fail or move forward on his own. It was so difficult to deal with him that I was forced to stand back. </p><p></p><p>I never felt Residential Treatment Facility (RTF) took my son away. I felt like they gave my son a chance and I'm grateful for what they provided difficult child but also what they provided me. </p><p></p><p>I don't think mom's as a general rule, ever stop parenting their kids. I am just doing so a little more silently. LOL. </p><p>GG, your daughter is only 19. I am sure by the time she is older and showing signs of being a young woman of character she will demand that you treat her as an adult. The relationship between adult parent and adult child can be a wonderfully rewarding relationship. </p><p></p><p>Having said all that, it is really nice to have difficult child in our home even if it's temporarily. I feel satisfied that for now he is safe and with people who love him. </p><p>Goldenguru, I hope you see what's best for difficult child to become a wonderful adult is to have her mom respecting her adult behavior.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Fran, post: 76583, member: 3"] I can understand that some of you feel you lost your child and how you continue to grieve but in gg's case, she got her daughter back and she is doing ok. I find it very surprising that I don't know my difficult child's work schedule, medication schedule, finances. It is not how I lived the first 21yrs of difficult child's life. I was over scrutinizing his life and it was strangling him in some cases. I pushed back (within reason) and let him run out of money, medications, late for work, etc. I still give him some cues on big issues(big to me) but I am less hyperfocused. difficult child demanded to fail or move forward on his own. It was so difficult to deal with him that I was forced to stand back. I never felt Residential Treatment Facility (RTF) took my son away. I felt like they gave my son a chance and I'm grateful for what they provided difficult child but also what they provided me. I don't think mom's as a general rule, ever stop parenting their kids. I am just doing so a little more silently. LOL. GG, your daughter is only 19. I am sure by the time she is older and showing signs of being a young woman of character she will demand that you treat her as an adult. The relationship between adult parent and adult child can be a wonderfully rewarding relationship. Having said all that, it is really nice to have difficult child in our home even if it's temporarily. I feel satisfied that for now he is safe and with people who love him. Goldenguru, I hope you see what's best for difficult child to become a wonderful adult is to have her mom respecting her adult behavior. [/QUOTE]
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