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Adults - but still children in our minds ?
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<blockquote data-quote="Kathy813" data-source="post: 76593" data-attributes="member: 1967"><p>Quote:</p><p>One final thing...lately I'm so busy, I barely have time to think about giving my children advice. They better figure it out for themselves.</p><p></p><p>Nomad hit the nail on the head. Parents of adult children need to find something to do with the rest of their lives. Your days of active parenting are done but you have a long life ahead of you.</p><p></p><p>I recently recommended a book called <em>Beyond the Mommy Years: How to Live Happily Ever After...After the Kids Leave Home</em> by Carin Rubenstein. The author points out that you will be the parent of adult children for many more years than you were a hands-on parent. As described on Amazon . . . "Through intensive and wide-ranging original research, author Carin Rubenstein reveals how and why some mothers thrive and others do not. She breaks the post-motherhood launch down into three stages--grief, relief, and joy. If a woman makes it through to the final stage, friendships blossom, work thrives, and she develops a renewed sense of confidence and well-being." </p><p></p><p>Have you thought about what you are going to do with those years?</p><p></p><p>I think my success at detaching is two-fold. One, I really don't think of my daughters as "girls" anymore. They are truly adults in my eyes (albeit not always adults that make the wisest decisions), and two, I'm busy with teaching and graduate school and making plans to travel with husband so I am not hyperfocused on what they are up to.</p><p></p><p>difficult child said to me recently, "You are never home when I call." I answered, "Am I supposed to be home knitting waiting for you to call?"</p><p></p><p>I don't know how to knit.</p><p></p><p>~Kathy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Kathy813, post: 76593, member: 1967"] Quote: One final thing...lately I'm so busy, I barely have time to think about giving my children advice. They better figure it out for themselves. Nomad hit the nail on the head. Parents of adult children need to find something to do with the rest of their lives. Your days of active parenting are done but you have a long life ahead of you. I recently recommended a book called [I]Beyond the Mommy Years: How to Live Happily Ever After...After the Kids Leave Home[/I] by Carin Rubenstein. The author points out that you will be the parent of adult children for many more years than you were a hands-on parent. As described on Amazon . . . "Through intensive and wide-ranging original research, author Carin Rubenstein reveals how and why some mothers thrive and others do not. She breaks the post-motherhood launch down into three stages--grief, relief, and joy. If a woman makes it through to the final stage, friendships blossom, work thrives, and she develops a renewed sense of confidence and well-being." Have you thought about what you are going to do with those years? I think my success at detaching is two-fold. One, I really don't think of my daughters as "girls" anymore. They are truly adults in my eyes (albeit not always adults that make the wisest decisions), and two, I'm busy with teaching and graduate school and making plans to travel with husband so I am not hyperfocused on what they are up to. difficult child said to me recently, "You are never home when I call." I answered, "Am I supposed to be home knitting waiting for you to call?" I don't know how to knit. ~Kathy [/QUOTE]
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