My daughter is 25. Has lived on her own the last 3 years. She has epilepsy since she hit puberty. Bipolar since 16 ish. I don't know if her bipolar has "evolved" into something else? Shes only had a few episodes growing up. Id tell her she was "Going to Oz" our code for her not being right. She'd listen, take my advise, lay low a few days and it would pass. I've visited her since her move. Heck we drove across country 3x for her moves. Happy to do it. We had a lot of fun and time together. Shes been home to visit. Last time 11/17 we, me my D and my husband, went to an escape room, we had a blast. Last year my daughter tells her brother (27) to leave home and to move in with her. They could split the rent and he could easily find work in the new state. I suggest she NOT do this as she is single, doing well and having another adult to care for does add to making life a bit crazier than normal. She says No Mom, that's my brother, I do well here and he will do well here too. okkkk. Takes him 5 months to find a job. I send food, household items, gifts. Things they need to make it easier on them. My son pays rents and shares the bills. Fast Forward to 1/4/18 = My son crashed his motorcycle. Hes alive and going to be ok but he broke 3 neck bones, 3 back bones. He was critical. I am stuck in a snowy state and cannot get to my kids till the 7th. My son is now in a medical halo for 3 months, neck brace for 3 months and then therapy. We are all together and were going to be ok! Time is going to heal my son!! pffttttt..... The next few days my daughter is odd. I guess I overlook it as I'm a bit preoccupied with my son and the freaking halo drilled into his head! Daughter says HEYYY since you are here my heat when up 20 bucks? (I'm in home less than a week!) I'm like ok if we need it turn it on! (WOW after paying all the bills prior to her moving out, a bit tight! lol ) A few days later, we've been making my son smoothies for nutrition as he can barely open his mouth. Besides cooking, cleaning, taking care of my daughter dog she went to LA for a week so I watched her dog, rather than day care) and my son, I'm busy!! I mention I'll make the smoothie so she doesn't have to and that I appreciate all she is doing for her brother. I figure shes stressed too. She tells me not to use her blender as its very complicated and she doesn't want me breaking it. A few days later, I'm told by daughter HEYYYY you guys (me and her brother not her 2 house guests that have been there 2 weeks) are using all the DATA?? some cable bs.... and its costing her $50 more! I now give her $70 bucks and tell her IF she needs money for whatever I will certainly help as I don't expect her to shoulder this financial responsibility. That we need to talk about it. Fast forward a few days and she throws us out of her home that she shared with my son. 3 bed/2.5 baths. Calls the cops on us. Says we are squatters. She wants us arrested. We assaulted her. Writes a 4 page complaint against us. I'm a drug user. My brother a leach. I just sat there and cried. I was like what is going on???? I'm in a strange state where I don't know anyone with a kid in a halo?? where do I go? Cops said we could stay but I knew that in her mental state that wasn't going to work. She would not have been happy till someone was arrested. My son and I left. whew...... feels good to just get it off my chest. I get my son established in an apt, year lease. furnish it basic, get the things he needs. Spend 2 months there having him heal. My daughter has disowned me as I'm a dumb ass. I'm toxic. I'm a loser. I'm just basically worse than dirt. She is saying total nonsense about me. I'm heartbroken but not so much over the words as I am her mental state. I've been trying to text her every week or so to just say hi thinking of you love and miss you. Hoping she calms down. almost 3 months later and she is NOT calming down lol While I adore her, I do not want to play by her rules. SO Do I continue to try and remind her I love her unconditionally or do I just stop contacting her and pray she comes to her senses??