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<blockquote data-quote="CAmom" data-source="post: 29776" data-attributes="member: 1835"><p>MIT, I don't have any advice but just want you to know that I'm thinking about you and your daughter.</p><p></p><p>I'm VERY lucky (it took the ladies on the forum to make me understand just HOW lucky) that my son was court-ordered into an Residential Treatment Center (RTC) before he got to the point that your daughter is. </p><p></p><p>I've thought many times about how difficult it must be to send your child away, ESPECIALLY a girl, knowing how dangerous it can be out there if they end up on the streets. </p><p></p><p>But, if I've learned one thing here, it's that "saving" your child just doesn't work in the long term. That said, I totally agree with Melissa that working in the background to help them reach the point where they want to help themselves is NOT saving them or enabling them. </p><p></p><p>I think that's really what tough love is all about...loving them enough to try to help them by NOT helping them, despite the pain it causes us, in the hopes that, by losing everything, they will hit their personal "rock bottom" and MAYBE look in a mirror and not like what they see enough to make that climb back up. </p><p></p><p>If your police force is anything like ours, they will be happy to help you by doing whatever they can to get your daughter into a safer place.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="CAmom, post: 29776, member: 1835"] MIT, I don't have any advice but just want you to know that I'm thinking about you and your daughter. I'm VERY lucky (it took the ladies on the forum to make me understand just HOW lucky) that my son was court-ordered into an Residential Treatment Center (RTC) before he got to the point that your daughter is. I've thought many times about how difficult it must be to send your child away, ESPECIALLY a girl, knowing how dangerous it can be out there if they end up on the streets. But, if I've learned one thing here, it's that "saving" your child just doesn't work in the long term. That said, I totally agree with Melissa that working in the background to help them reach the point where they want to help themselves is NOT saving them or enabling them. I think that's really what tough love is all about...loving them enough to try to help them by NOT helping them, despite the pain it causes us, in the hopes that, by losing everything, they will hit their personal "rock bottom" and MAYBE look in a mirror and not like what they see enough to make that climb back up. If your police force is anything like ours, they will be happy to help you by doing whatever they can to get your daughter into a safer place. [/QUOTE]
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