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advice needed from forum, I posted several months back. My 33 yr old son is in a short term rehab,
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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 627088" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>Are there shelters in your town? He can get into a shelter and sometimes they help with jobs. Is he on food stamps? There are places he can go, shelters, food banks, many of the kids here find their way through the system and set themselves up. Where I live, Mental Health Services has social workers who specifically work with homeless people trying to get them housing, jobs, hooked up with food stamps, etc. </p><p></p><p>This is so hard Sheila, I know. When you helped him before it didn't change anything, the only one who can change anything is your son, not you. </p><p></p><p>The disease should be addressed, but it needs to be addressed by your son. That is the crux of the problem. If you continue saving him, he will not learn how to negotiate his own life and find his own way. </p><p></p><p>In the meantime, until your therapy appointment, attend 12 step groups, narc anon, al anon, coda, families anonymous, whichever one works for you, you can go every day and get some support. You will need support, this is, in my opinion, the hardest thing any of us will ever do. It is devastating and yet we've already tried everything, so then we land where you presently find yourself. It's hard. It's necessary. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>That's our scariest thought. I had to go through that in my mind and realize I couldn't prevent that, no matter what I did. It may indeed happen. We can't control that or keep it from happening when our kids lead lives which put them in harms way. We're the ones who have to get used to choices we have no part in, choices which make our hair stand on end..........that's why we need so much support as we learn to accept what we cannot change or control. </p><p></p><p>I am saying a prayer for you Sheila. Be very, very kind to yourself. Get as much support as you can. Hugs.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 627088, member: 13542"] Are there shelters in your town? He can get into a shelter and sometimes they help with jobs. Is he on food stamps? There are places he can go, shelters, food banks, many of the kids here find their way through the system and set themselves up. Where I live, Mental Health Services has social workers who specifically work with homeless people trying to get them housing, jobs, hooked up with food stamps, etc. This is so hard Sheila, I know. When you helped him before it didn't change anything, the only one who can change anything is your son, not you. The disease should be addressed, but it needs to be addressed by your son. That is the crux of the problem. If you continue saving him, he will not learn how to negotiate his own life and find his own way. In the meantime, until your therapy appointment, attend 12 step groups, narc anon, al anon, coda, families anonymous, whichever one works for you, you can go every day and get some support. You will need support, this is, in my opinion, the hardest thing any of us will ever do. It is devastating and yet we've already tried everything, so then we land where you presently find yourself. It's hard. It's necessary. That's our scariest thought. I had to go through that in my mind and realize I couldn't prevent that, no matter what I did. It may indeed happen. We can't control that or keep it from happening when our kids lead lives which put them in harms way. We're the ones who have to get used to choices we have no part in, choices which make our hair stand on end..........that's why we need so much support as we learn to accept what we cannot change or control. I am saying a prayer for you Sheila. Be very, very kind to yourself. Get as much support as you can. Hugs. [/QUOTE]
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