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Advice on how to talk to son in rehab and not make things worse
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<blockquote data-quote="JMom" data-source="post: 680505" data-attributes="member: 19892"><p>Hi RN!</p><p></p><p>You've come to the right place! I'm on the varsity team for our local rehab. Lol </p><p></p><p>My son has been in rehab 4 times and 6 sober living homes. His 1st rehab was 18...he's 21 now. I have a lot of experience with learning to be part of the recovery and refusing to be part of the addiction. </p><p></p><p>Your post reminded me of my son's 1st rehab. Man, I was inside out! </p><p></p><p>The counselors said not to let him manipulate me on the phone (leaving rehab, ect). I agree with the other to limit calls and be brief.</p><p></p><p>The thing I learned that helped the most is you don't have to DO or SAY anything. Ah, FREEDOM! LOL. It feels good to say no and to just say "that's not something I'm prepared to talk about right now". You can choose not to answer the phone. The book codependent no more by Melody Beattie helped me alot. It's $7 at a resale book store $10 on line. I reread it when I find myself being too involved. </p><p></p><p>Just know that there is not anything you say that will cause him to use or not use. Tell him he has to hire a new scapegoat because you quit. I'm teasing now, but I really did tell my son that because he kept blaming me for his addiction. </p><p></p><p>Anyways, take care of YOU!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="JMom, post: 680505, member: 19892"] Hi RN! You've come to the right place! I'm on the varsity team for our local rehab. Lol My son has been in rehab 4 times and 6 sober living homes. His 1st rehab was 18...he's 21 now. I have a lot of experience with learning to be part of the recovery and refusing to be part of the addiction. Your post reminded me of my son's 1st rehab. Man, I was inside out! The counselors said not to let him manipulate me on the phone (leaving rehab, ect). I agree with the other to limit calls and be brief. The thing I learned that helped the most is you don't have to DO or SAY anything. Ah, FREEDOM! LOL. It feels good to say no and to just say "that's not something I'm prepared to talk about right now". You can choose not to answer the phone. The book codependent no more by Melody Beattie helped me alot. It's $7 at a resale book store $10 on line. I reread it when I find myself being too involved. Just know that there is not anything you say that will cause him to use or not use. Tell him he has to hire a new scapegoat because you quit. I'm teasing now, but I really did tell my son that because he kept blaming me for his addiction. Anyways, take care of YOU! [/QUOTE]
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