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<blockquote data-quote="Childofmine" data-source="post: 661597" data-attributes="member: 17542"><p>I agree with waiting until he asks you.</p><p></p><p>You haven't been asked, so until you have been asked, there is truly no decision to make.</p><p></p><p>Let's say he does ask. </p><p></p><p>I likely would give him part or all of the $150 and pay it direction to the school (not cash or a check to him), if all indications are still positive. You could allow him to work it off at your house, doing chores, yard work, washing windows, whatever. Then, he has earned it. Difficult Child spent part of Saturday and Sunday digging two stumps out of our yard and earned $85. This builds his pride and self-esteem in himself, I believe.</p><p></p><p>No strings attached, no conditions attached. Let go of the outcome once he has the money.</p><p></p><p>If he doesn't handle this well, then that tells you he isn't ready for the next step. That doesn't negate all of the progress, just a misstep on the journey. </p><p></p><p>Alb, I am just glad that he is showing progress. Not perfection, but progress. There is a lot of catching up to do for our DCs, and we need to let them catch up with all of the learning on their own as much as we possibly can.</p><p></p><p>It's hard to stand back when we see progress and there is a struggle. We forget the struggle is the whole purpose of it. </p><p></p><p>So glad, Alb.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Childofmine, post: 661597, member: 17542"] I agree with waiting until he asks you. You haven't been asked, so until you have been asked, there is truly no decision to make. Let's say he does ask. I likely would give him part or all of the $150 and pay it direction to the school (not cash or a check to him), if all indications are still positive. You could allow him to work it off at your house, doing chores, yard work, washing windows, whatever. Then, he has earned it. Difficult Child spent part of Saturday and Sunday digging two stumps out of our yard and earned $85. This builds his pride and self-esteem in himself, I believe. No strings attached, no conditions attached. Let go of the outcome once he has the money. If he doesn't handle this well, then that tells you he isn't ready for the next step. That doesn't negate all of the progress, just a misstep on the journey. Alb, I am just glad that he is showing progress. Not perfection, but progress. There is a lot of catching up to do for our DCs, and we need to let them catch up with all of the learning on their own as much as we possibly can. It's hard to stand back when we see progress and there is a struggle. We forget the struggle is the whole purpose of it. So glad, Alb. [/QUOTE]
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