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<blockquote data-quote="in a daze" data-source="post: 762306" data-attributes="member: 15832"><p>I can relate. My son has gone into a depressive episode. His house is not so much cluttered as in need of a serious cleaning. He claims he is going to get to it this weekend. I am always offering to help, but he turns me down. He does want me to try and get the stains out of the couch and the carpet, which I will attempt to do.</p><p></p><p>Yes, like you, I have a very hard time letting it go.</p><p></p><p>I am seriously considering hiring someone to go in there every two weeks and clean and do laundry, since he won’t let me. I have tried in vain to get at home services for him.</p><p></p><p>And of course, not everyone can afford maid service.</p><p></p><p>Hiring help might be enabling, but here’s my rationale. People like your daughter and my son have serious mental health issues which interfere with their motivation, energy, and concentration. This goes beyond laziness, I think. My son has severe undermedicated ADHD, and I think it’s all he can do to get dressed and find something to eat. When he was working, it was a superhuman effort.</p><p></p><p>It must be very difficult for your daughter to keep up the house with four kids, with her MH issues. I’m just saying. But I sure do understand your reluctance to get more involved with her. It can be a slippery slope!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="in a daze, post: 762306, member: 15832"] I can relate. My son has gone into a depressive episode. His house is not so much cluttered as in need of a serious cleaning. He claims he is going to get to it this weekend. I am always offering to help, but he turns me down. He does want me to try and get the stains out of the couch and the carpet, which I will attempt to do. Yes, like you, I have a very hard time letting it go. I am seriously considering hiring someone to go in there every two weeks and clean and do laundry, since he won’t let me. I have tried in vain to get at home services for him. And of course, not everyone can afford maid service. Hiring help might be enabling, but here’s my rationale. People like your daughter and my son have serious mental health issues which interfere with their motivation, energy, and concentration. This goes beyond laziness, I think. My son has severe undermedicated ADHD, and I think it’s all he can do to get dressed and find something to eat. When he was working, it was a superhuman effort. It must be very difficult for your daughter to keep up the house with four kids, with her MH issues. I’m just saying. But I sure do understand your reluctance to get more involved with her. It can be a slippery slope! [/QUOTE]
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