So, I've been making baby steps with my difficult child, and can slowly see a change in here (ie it only takes me 12 times to tell her not to do something, instead of the normal 300), well tonight, she and her cousin were playing *we all live in the same house*, when her cousin CHOKED her. I didn't scream, didn't curse, didn't do anything, except make sure that my difficult child was okay *she was, just some red marks, which I showed to our mother*, and then told my two girls *my difficult child and my easy child*, that they weren't allowed to play with their cousin anymore tonight because I will NOT tolerate the physical violence. Well my sister comes stomping out, and demands to know why I won't let them play together, I tell her what happened, and she snatches her child up and calls me a b***h, and I laugh in her face, and tell her she can call me names all she wants, I'm their mother and I said they weren't playing with her. Its like, my sister can't stand to NOT see my difficult child in trouble, because I tell you what, had that been MY child that had done that, I would have put her into a time out and explained that you just don't put your hands onto another person like that. I'm just SO tired of EVERYONE treating my difficult child like she is an evil child, while kissing the butt of my sisters child. Her child, is very rude to adults, slaps them, curses them, and not because she has any form of anything, but because her mother finds it funny. I'm sorry, I'm so frustrated I just don't know what to do. My question is this...was I wrong in keeping them separated for the night? DOES that make me a bad person?