Can someone define an advocate's role for me? I think ours is a very nice, albeit very determined, lady, but I think she might be overstepping boundaries in her quest to help us as much as possible. I had a meeting at the school yesterday morning with the district's Occupational Therapist (OT) and my advocate so we could get a rundown of how the school conducted the Occupational Therapist (OT) portion of their assessment. After the meeting in the course of conversation I told her I was not having any luck getting difficult child into the new psychiatrist I wanted to switch to and I wasn't really clear on their reasoning, but that at least I got him to agree to a 2nd opinion. She asked if I minded if she called just to better understand why they would not see my son, and I said that would be fine, not expecting anything more than just a better explanation. Well that psychiatrist called this morning to get more information on difficult child for his assessment, and in the course of THAT conversation he let me know that my advocate "bullied" his office staff repeatedly, accusing them of not seeing him due to his insurance, etc. (which it turns out is partially true so it wasn't a false accusation but definitely p***ed them off) and basically "burned that bridge for [me]". He said his clinic manager told him in no uncertain terms that they will not be dealing with our case because of the way our advocate came across. Which, okay they were already telling me they would never see my difficult child so I don't think she burned a bridge because there wasn't one in the first place, but I do think she caused bad blood and that rather annoys me. I love that she is so militantly on our side, but you can't go around strong-arming your way all the time, either. I'm just bummed out to have that whole clinic basically feel negatively towards difficult child and myself now. I feel like we've lost an ally somehow, even if we never could actually get into the clinic in the first place. Am I just being dumb? Or do I need to reign her in?