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After almost a year, back in contact with Difficult StepSon.
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<blockquote data-quote="BloodiedButUnbowed" data-source="post: 707779" data-attributes="member: 13303"><p>Thanks for all of the feedback. Last night we spoke with his girlfriend's parents, who were very nice and answered all of our questions. Their daughter sounds very similar to our son, and she has had success in this program, so my wife decided to give her blessing to his attending the same online HS she does. </p><p></p><p>We spoke to his father about the fact that stepson would be expected to continue attending his current school until the transfer is completed. Father agreed that this was the expectation. No surprise, he is absent from school today. We have accepted that son does as he pleases and his father will not discipline him, or provide him with any structure whatsoever, and that we have no influence due to many long-standing factors having to do with my wife's decision to leave the parenting primarily to his father.</p><p></p><p>Online school won't solve our son's mental health issues, but if it makes the road a little easier for him and provides him with the flexibility he needs to complete a HS diploma, then it will be worth it.</p><p></p><p>Son is going to get a part time job to pay for this himself. We support the idea. He may value his education more if he is choosing it himself AND bearing responsibility for it. Any responsibility is a positive in our eyes even if it is non-traditional.</p><p></p><p>Son seems to care for his girlfriend, and we are also supportive of that. He has always been very isolated and introverted, and the fact that he has a trusted confidant and (now) girlfriend is wonderful progress for him. Her parents told us that our son is a 'great kid' and that they include him on many of their family activities. It sounds like he has found a haven there and for that, we are grateful. We suggested to her family that we all get together sometime and they were very enthusiastic about the idea.</p><p></p><p>Thank you for your feedback on this, as you really helped me get some perspective and support my wife in making her decision to allow him to attend school online. Now it's up to him to follow through. I think this will make life easier for him, and hopefully will end in a diploma and a job/post-secondary education (he has expressed interest in our local junior college), but as I said above, his mental health issues will persist.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BloodiedButUnbowed, post: 707779, member: 13303"] Thanks for all of the feedback. Last night we spoke with his girlfriend's parents, who were very nice and answered all of our questions. Their daughter sounds very similar to our son, and she has had success in this program, so my wife decided to give her blessing to his attending the same online HS she does. We spoke to his father about the fact that stepson would be expected to continue attending his current school until the transfer is completed. Father agreed that this was the expectation. No surprise, he is absent from school today. We have accepted that son does as he pleases and his father will not discipline him, or provide him with any structure whatsoever, and that we have no influence due to many long-standing factors having to do with my wife's decision to leave the parenting primarily to his father. Online school won't solve our son's mental health issues, but if it makes the road a little easier for him and provides him with the flexibility he needs to complete a HS diploma, then it will be worth it. Son is going to get a part time job to pay for this himself. We support the idea. He may value his education more if he is choosing it himself AND bearing responsibility for it. Any responsibility is a positive in our eyes even if it is non-traditional. Son seems to care for his girlfriend, and we are also supportive of that. He has always been very isolated and introverted, and the fact that he has a trusted confidant and (now) girlfriend is wonderful progress for him. Her parents told us that our son is a 'great kid' and that they include him on many of their family activities. It sounds like he has found a haven there and for that, we are grateful. We suggested to her family that we all get together sometime and they were very enthusiastic about the idea. Thank you for your feedback on this, as you really helped me get some perspective and support my wife in making her decision to allow him to attend school online. Now it's up to him to follow through. I think this will make life easier for him, and hopefully will end in a diploma and a job/post-secondary education (he has expressed interest in our local junior college), but as I said above, his mental health issues will persist. [/QUOTE]
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