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After months of silence, email from difficult child's girlfriend arrives today
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<blockquote data-quote="Childofmine" data-source="post: 632340" data-attributes="member: 17542"><p>SS you and husband are doing so well with this. The value of waiting. You are doing it and showing it to the rest of us.</p><p></p><p>In terms of a response, here is my thought fwiw:</p><p></p><p>Thanks for the email. We are glad things are going well for the both of you.</p><p></p><p>That's it. One thing we talk about in alanon is: say what you mean but don't say it mean. </p><p></p><p>Why? Because you are keeping your side of the street clean and can Look in the mirror and be proud of who you see there. </p><p></p><p>Who knows? Maybe there is truth in what she wrote. How much truth? Who knows? Accept it at face value. </p><p></p><p>Of course you will be glad always if/when difficult child is doing better and making progress.</p><p></p><p>Maybe this is what progress looks and sounds like and how it is delivered. </p><p></p><p>The response I would give would be calm, measured, cordial and indicate an openness and a gladness for the info.</p><p></p><p>Don't invite a crisis or create one by priming the pump.</p><p> </p><p>Don't offer a preemptive strike.</p><p></p><p>Don't raise issues. </p><p></p><p>You got this! You are a role model for the rest of us. Clean that carpet! : )</p><p></p><p></p><p>Sent using ConductDisorders mobile app</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Childofmine, post: 632340, member: 17542"] SS you and husband are doing so well with this. The value of waiting. You are doing it and showing it to the rest of us. In terms of a response, here is my thought fwiw: Thanks for the email. We are glad things are going well for the both of you. That's it. One thing we talk about in alanon is: say what you mean but don't say it mean. Why? Because you are keeping your side of the street clean and can Look in the mirror and be proud of who you see there. Who knows? Maybe there is truth in what she wrote. How much truth? Who knows? Accept it at face value. Of course you will be glad always if/when difficult child is doing better and making progress. Maybe this is what progress looks and sounds like and how it is delivered. The response I would give would be calm, measured, cordial and indicate an openness and a gladness for the info. Don't invite a crisis or create one by priming the pump. Don't offer a preemptive strike. Don't raise issues. You got this! You are a role model for the rest of us. Clean that carpet! : ) Sent using ConductDisorders mobile app [/QUOTE]
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