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After months of silence, email from difficult child's girlfriend arrives today
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<blockquote data-quote="Nomad" data-source="post: 632365" data-attributes="member: 4152"><p>Totally agree with the others. As a side note: This girlfriend is smart. That letter is noticeably well thought out / articulate.</p><p>Hadn't heard that saying before: "Say what you mean, but don't say it mean." Wow, that's another gooood one!</p><p>Sometimes, when I am trying to do that with difficult child, it comes off demeaning. I'm actually boiling inside. And I'm leery of her reaction, because she can go off the deep end at times, rather quickly. So, while I'm trying to speak honestly, but calmly, it comes off strange...sort of like this weird calm....as if I'm speaking to a very young child. It is a bit eery and she recognizes it. So, I need to work on that. Better as I detach more and more. I read this book once called "Yes, Your Teen is Crazy" and the author said to speak to your out of control teen like a cop giving a ticket...using the same tone "I'm pulling you over because you were speeding. Here is your ticket." (Ta Da/Boom/No emotion there, and that's good).</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nomad, post: 632365, member: 4152"] Totally agree with the others. As a side note: This girlfriend is smart. That letter is noticeably well thought out / articulate. Hadn't heard that saying before: "Say what you mean, but don't say it mean." Wow, that's another gooood one! Sometimes, when I am trying to do that with difficult child, it comes off demeaning. I'm actually boiling inside. And I'm leery of her reaction, because she can go off the deep end at times, rather quickly. So, while I'm trying to speak honestly, but calmly, it comes off strange...sort of like this weird calm....as if I'm speaking to a very young child. It is a bit eery and she recognizes it. So, I need to work on that. Better as I detach more and more. I read this book once called "Yes, Your Teen is Crazy" and the author said to speak to your out of control teen like a cop giving a ticket...using the same tone "I'm pulling you over because you were speeding. Here is your ticket." (Ta Da/Boom/No emotion there, and that's good). [/QUOTE]
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