Manster doesn't want to do ANYTHING outside the home. He fought me on the TKD and now is fighting the swimming. Every time! He's been doing this for 7 weeks now so I'm not seeing the problem in terms of anxiety at this point. He is usually fine once I force him into going but the fights every Tues and Thurs are killing me and I wonder if it's worth it. I mean he works himself up into a full on meltdown and calls me every name in the book when he realizes he isn't getting his way. He calms himself by the time he's getting into the water and typically apologizes. He is overweight and NEEDS this exercise. If I don't enforce some kind of structured activity he just won't get it. I do take him on bike rides and walks on weekends when the weather is nice. But he needs more. I'm feeling utterly beaten down tonight. His dad picked him up from school but he (and his friend R as a cohort) manipulated him into not getting in the pool and they were sitting on the benches when I got there. I was furious when I got to the pool. I work full time and can't do much more. Are there answers out there I am not seeing? He did tell me he thought he would like volleyball or tennis. So I guess I'll try those next if I can't find somewhere local that has them. Maybe he'll consider racketball. Sigh.