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<blockquote data-quote="Albatross" data-source="post: 699499" data-attributes="member: 17720"><p>T Rene, I think as parents we still hold onto this idea that we hold power over them like we did when they were little. We don't hold that much sway anymore. What we say may be less than the perfect thing to say in that situation, but their reaction is under their control, not ours.</p><p></p><p>The yelling and cursing is not acceptable. He needs to stop that or take it elsewhere. If he is scaring you, I think you should ask him to leave and not return until he is capable of treating you with respect.</p><p></p><p>How is he supporting himself? Are you giving him money or other support? If not, I guess maybe I might try to stay away from "job" conversations, as it is his choice and does not affect you. If you are supporting him financially, that is a different situation.</p><p></p><p>If you are worried about him extending his visits, can you set limits beforehand, or maybe have plans in place that necessitate your ending his visits at a certain time? </p><p></p><p>Either way, great on him for staying sober. I hope he is attending meetings or counseling so he can work on his anger issues.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Albatross, post: 699499, member: 17720"] T Rene, I think as parents we still hold onto this idea that we hold power over them like we did when they were little. We don't hold that much sway anymore. What we say may be less than the perfect thing to say in that situation, but their reaction is under their control, not ours. The yelling and cursing is not acceptable. He needs to stop that or take it elsewhere. If he is scaring you, I think you should ask him to leave and not return until he is capable of treating you with respect. How is he supporting himself? Are you giving him money or other support? If not, I guess maybe I might try to stay away from "job" conversations, as it is his choice and does not affect you. If you are supporting him financially, that is a different situation. If you are worried about him extending his visits, can you set limits beforehand, or maybe have plans in place that necessitate your ending his visits at a certain time? Either way, great on him for staying sober. I hope he is attending meetings or counseling so he can work on his anger issues. [/QUOTE]
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