We went out to the shops because difficult child wanted to spend his Christmass money..... Even before we went hubby had a misrable attitude because he thought difficult child must rather save his money....The whole time husband was so misrable because he ANTISSIPATED difficult child to become difficult....yes difficult child got mentally stuck now and then because he couldnt find what he wanted.....but nothing I couldnt gently talk him out of! But ghg picked up on my hubbies attitude that CAUSED him to start acting out!!!! I just HATE it when husband expect the worse! Its like a self fulfilling profecy! So at the restaurant difficult child was burping now and again starting to TRY and annoy his dad.....my husband got more and more stressed because of "what will the people think"! So he starts giving difficult child this disapproving looks....making difficult child feel all "bad" about himself....so he starts telling his dad not to look at him, he is irritating him, he doesnt like him....exct.... Aghhh this is SO stressfull.....why cant everybody just by into my explenations.....hubby feels difficult child must learn to try and handle situations!!!!! This is so stresfull! I want to screem! psychiatrist feels I must bud out and leave hubby to LEARN to deal with difficult child himself, but I feel if I leave them its damaging their relationship! This all said hubby spends the most time and attention with difficult child! They really actually care so much for each other!!!!