This morning difficult child 3 told me that difficult child 2 rubbed his bottom and picked a scab off his head. I talk to gfgf2. He says he also rubbed his head. What I think happened is that difficult child 3 is sicker than difficult child 2 at the moment (all of us except difficult child 1 are sick) and difficult child 2 was trying to comfort him. It started as rubbing his head (which difficult child 3 really likes and because of this issue I discourage) then difficult child 2 picked the scab which difficult child 3 protested to and hid his head sticking his rear in the air. difficult child 2 doesn't see any difference between rubbing a head or rubbing a rear so he comforted difficult child 3's rear. I talked to difficult child 2 about not touching other people there. Then said he had to be in the hula hoop all day. The hula hoop is supposed to help them keep appropriate distance between themselves and other people. Yes, all day was harsh if me to say. I should've set a timer so difficult child 2 could see an end in sight. Mute point now. difficult child 2 destroyed the hula hoop, so now he is a shadow (has to be in sight) to husband. I tried having him be my shadow but I'm trying to put Cherub to sleep. She isn't sleeping well and wakes up very easily. difficult child 2 is just so noisy he woke her up by trying to be quite. Right now I am so frustrated with difficult child 2. We have been working on this issue. He knows better, and I'm out of ideas of how to get through to him. I'm also scared. This brings up memories of trying to keep kids safe when difficult child 1 would do the same thing, but for a very different reason. I'm scared that difficult child 2 will go down the same path difficult child 1 has, and its not a rational logical fear. It still lurks in the back if my mind. And I'm sick and exhausted and now have a very wide awake Cherub I'm trying to put back to sleep. That battle I might just give up on. thanks for listening to the vent and any ideas on how to teach personal space would be most welcome.