As far as I know, difficult child has been clean for 80 days. While that is GREAT, I am growing less and less confident it will last. Sometime around 15 days clean, she moved into a half-way house where they are monitored, tested, have to get a job, go to so many meetings per week, volunterr work, individual and group counseling, etc. Pretty structured - which is absolutely what she needs. She moved out last week. She gave 2 different stories as to why she was moving to a differnt recovery house. She said she and 1 other girl were the only 2 there voluntarily (the rest were court-ordered) and the ones there by CO were diluting their urine, having boys spend the night - basically breaking all the rules. She didn't want to be in that environment and that she was in a tough spot because reporting them would cause her trouble and not reporting them could get her kicked out if it was found out she knew what was going on and didn't say anything. Sounds like a reasonable, mature decision that she said she made after speaking with her sponsor. Then we spoke to her mom who told us difficult child did tell her that story but the 1st story she told her mom was that the house was up her way too much and she wanted out. Now THAT sounds like the difficult child we all know and love. The not-so-responsible, immature, teenage-like (she's 32) decision. UGH!! I've said all along I have equated her actions and attitude to a freshman in college going away to school for the 1st time. No longer under her parents' thumbs. She just seemed to be having way too much fun for being new in recovery. She only started working last week so all this time, she's had not much to do with her time. She has always been one to attach herself too quickly to new people in her life and she's exhibiting that still. With one of her housemates who became her BFF within 2 days of meeting, with people in her NA meetings, etc. She was spending more time with people outside the house and being the procrastinator she's always been when it came to looking for a job, etc. It would drive me crazy when husband would tell me he spoke to her at lunchtime and she was just getting out of the shower to take the hour it takes her to do her makeup so she would potentially start the job hunt at 2pm! I told her that her full time job was looking for a full time job! She always hated it when I said that in the past. Apparently she still does Anyhoo...I asked her to text me her address yesterday. Guess what?! The address was not for the recovery house she said she moved to. It was actually to a house nicer than mine, in a neighborhood nicer than mine! She claims it's a recovery house. I don't believe it. So many suspicions about what she's really up to. Her mom and dad both agree something's off. They both want to believe she's not using. I'm not so sure. If it quacks like a duck, you know? husband was really upset with her last night and told her that if she was going continue to lie to us, then he didn't want to hear from her. Then he shared with me he is not so sure difficult child will be back at all to take care of her son, ever. That was huge for him to have that realization.