Almost holding my breath...

Discussion in 'Parent Emeritus' started by witzend, Apr 15, 2011.

  1. witzend

    witzend Well-Known Member

    M called today to say that he got the job at the nursing home. I hope that he will work towards getting his own apartment. I feel awful that I don't feel more excited for him, but there are so many disappointments.

    Like I said before, maybe living with my parents will give him the impetus to get his own place, which will give him the impetus to keep the job...
  2. elizabrary

    elizabrary Member

    A job is always positive no matter what. Here's hoping it's a the first of many positive steps!
  3. susiestar

    susiestar Roll With It

    I'm hoping iwth you!
  4. Hound dog

    Hound dog Nana's are Beautiful

    Great that he got the job!

    Fingers crossed and saying a prayer he saves up to get his own place next.
  5. Fran

    Fran Former desparate mom

    Living with my parents, motivated me to find my own way too. Maybe our kids will get it even if they do it in such a difficult way.
    Fingers crossed for him and for you.
  6. witzend

    witzend Well-Known Member

    I talked to him briefly last evening. Apparently somewhere along the line someone at the nursing home who has nothing to do with this job mentioned a "activities director" position - one he is clearly unqualified for. So he said that on his first day of work he will ask for another application and fill it out for that job. :rolleyes: I suggested that he not say anything to anyone about it while he is training, because he shouldn't want them to think that he isn't all that interested in the job he already has.

  7. DDD

    DDD Well-Known Member

    It's understandable. Not grasping the whole picture is so difficult child. Chances are he sees an opportunity for advancement and does not have a clue that he's not qualified. The mind set is just not the same as ours. I would guess that he sees your comments as either "holding him back" or "not believing in him". Sigh! It's a hard road we travel. Hugs. DDD
  8. KTMom91

    KTMom91 Well-Known Member

    Keeping fingers crossed!
  9. witzend

    witzend Well-Known Member

    Update - directly against my advice M went back to the nursing home and applied for the "activities director" job the same day he was supposed to start work in their kitchen. Lo and behold, they decided that he was not serious about the cook's position and told him to go home.

    He called today to tell me that his former boss' department head from the community college (where he had been working before he lost his financial aid, and stayed in a fellow employee's apartment for a summer and trashed it after having tried to hang himself in their closet) who said that she'd like to hire him back. He told her that the boss didn't want him back, but she said that he should call her instead. He's all het up, but let's remember that he still has to go back to work for the boss, not the department head. If he does get the job, they're not going to make it easy on him. I wouldn't.
  10. Hound dog

    Hound dog Nana's are Beautiful

    Oh, boy. :sigh:

  11. KTMom91

    KTMom91 Well-Known Member

    Hugs, Witz.
  12. HaoZi

    HaoZi Guest

  13. Star*

    Star* call 911

    I'm not completely sure what the definition of impetus is, but if I had to take a guess? I'd say RUN SCREAMING?