I've read some of your posts re difficult child moving out and it gives me hope and courage to go ahead and let happen what happens. I've wanted to my difficult child to move out for some time, but he has violent streak, threatens me, destroys our home (which I bought in a neighborhood i could just barely afford-now can't to give him a new start). I love my son, but don't want to live walking on eggshells all my life. Like you, I've been to all the counselors, tried every reward plan, sent him to court appointed programs...Now I'm broke, tired and want to move on since he doesn't seem to want to. Still I'm nervous, i know what's coming-he will break things, maybe hurt me. Even if police remove him, he has no problem breaking back in...given my status at work right now, afraid to miss more work. I should mention i've given ultimatum-he always does just enough to be within a margin of gray. Stays out just 10 min past curfew, 'forgets' to do chores. He has another part-time job, but refuses to help in house beyond a couple of minor chores, says he wants to skateboard-i suspect still smoking pt and drking with friends. Sorry if rambling, i'm just anxious. Should also mention he has a pregnant girlfriend, whose mother hates me because i don't have money to help prepare as she'd like. Could really use your encouragement - I know there are no guarantees, but current situation isn't working for me... Thank you!