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<blockquote data-quote="Carolita2" data-source="post: 669859" data-attributes="member: 19632"><p>Hi,</p><p></p><p>Backlash has started..Very tough attacks, pleas for money backed up with suicide threats, crying, begging, accusing..girlfriend is calmer and more rational but excuses his behavior. I said all the right things and let them know about the 30 days..It was done in the most loving way it could be considering what the message is; we are not paying bills, rent or anything other than fixing the car which was promised and only if they do all the leg work and we can pay on line..They are suffering, I am sure, but we are not the answer to their suffering.... Because we have enabled and they have put all their eggs in one basket, us..</p><p></p><p>This afternoon property management company called, left message and said that they, too, must submit a 30 day notice of termination at the same time we did...last week they said if they don't submit we will be responsible for getting them out but the lease would be considered broken with only our notice to terminate..I was unable to get in touch to go over this with them today so now...Monday.. </p><p></p><p>Then the text while we were out having dinner, not something we do very often as we have another son with a disability..text comes in...power in the apartment has been shut off...here's the kicker...because we didn't send them money today to get to the DHS office which offers utilities assistance...really? not!</p><p></p><p>We toyed with the idea of doing a quid pro quo; you guys submit the 30 day notice of termination and we will get utilities turned back on electronically no money involved...but because of the blaming and the possibility of getting hooked back into the whole thing and sending the wrong message after a lot of angst, we decided to let it go and stay out of it.. then we learned the cost would be $380 dollars( were able to access their account because we paid the bills before).</p><p>Going on a day trip with another couple tomorrow, a once in a long time thing... good thing we won't be able to ruminate about the whole situation. </p><p>Drama, drama, drama....very exhausted..</p><p></p><p>Thanks for your concern and support.</p><p></p><p>Open for comments and feedback..</p><p></p><p>Carolita</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Carolita2, post: 669859, member: 19632"] Hi, Backlash has started..Very tough attacks, pleas for money backed up with suicide threats, crying, begging, accusing..girlfriend is calmer and more rational but excuses his behavior. I said all the right things and let them know about the 30 days..It was done in the most loving way it could be considering what the message is; we are not paying bills, rent or anything other than fixing the car which was promised and only if they do all the leg work and we can pay on line..They are suffering, I am sure, but we are not the answer to their suffering.... Because we have enabled and they have put all their eggs in one basket, us.. This afternoon property management company called, left message and said that they, too, must submit a 30 day notice of termination at the same time we did...last week they said if they don't submit we will be responsible for getting them out but the lease would be considered broken with only our notice to terminate..I was unable to get in touch to go over this with them today so now...Monday.. Then the text while we were out having dinner, not something we do very often as we have another son with a disability..text comes in...power in the apartment has been shut off...here's the kicker...because we didn't send them money today to get to the DHS office which offers utilities assistance...really? not! We toyed with the idea of doing a quid pro quo; you guys submit the 30 day notice of termination and we will get utilities turned back on electronically no money involved...but because of the blaming and the possibility of getting hooked back into the whole thing and sending the wrong message after a lot of angst, we decided to let it go and stay out of it.. then we learned the cost would be $380 dollars( were able to access their account because we paid the bills before). Going on a day trip with another couple tomorrow, a once in a long time thing... good thing we won't be able to ruminate about the whole situation. Drama, drama, drama....very exhausted.. Thanks for your concern and support. Open for comments and feedback.. Carolita [/QUOTE]
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