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<blockquote data-quote="AppleCori" data-source="post: 669879" data-attributes="member: 16024"><p>And so it begins....</p><p></p><p>As you knew it would.</p><p></p><p>Do yourselves a favor, Carolita. Turn off your phone this weekend. Or turn the ringer off and don't answer any calls from your son and his girlfriend. Take a breather. They have no right to ruin your weekend with their constant begging, threatening, whining. Do not give them that power over you. It is a calculated move, designed to break you down and make you give them what they want (and their wants are without end). They will never be satisfied. Remember this. The more you give, the more they want. It will never end until you end it.</p><p></p><p>Recharge this weekend. Do something for yourself, even if it is turning off the phone and refusing their calls. Do something relaxing or fun. Whatever you need for your mental and physical health. You are important.</p><p></p><p>I'm sorry they ruined your rare night out at a restaurant. That is so selfish of them. You have a right to be angry. So be angry. Put the blame where it belongs--on them.</p><p></p><p>I think you have spent way too much time blaming yourself.</p><p></p><p>If your son makes a credible suicide threat, call 911. Many of our Difficult Child's have done this. Usually when the authorities are sent to their home, the threats end.</p><p></p><p>As far as the apartment goes, I would weigh the options that you have, and choose the one that works best for you. Call the apartment complex Monday and figure out your options for extricating yourself from this situation. The goal is getting yourself untangled financially from them.</p><p></p><p>If the car is in bad shape and the bill is unreasonable, you might consider buying them a months bus pass instead. Or, nothing at all if the money needs to be diverted to other things, like getting them removed from the apartment, or getting it cleaned out after they are gone. I don't think I would pay for any car repairs or a bus pass or anything at all until they put in the 30-day notice at the apartment. I would make that non-negotiable.</p><p></p><p>Get some rest this weekend.</p><p></p><p>Apple</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="AppleCori, post: 669879, member: 16024"] And so it begins.... As you knew it would. Do yourselves a favor, Carolita. Turn off your phone this weekend. Or turn the ringer off and don't answer any calls from your son and his girlfriend. Take a breather. They have no right to ruin your weekend with their constant begging, threatening, whining. Do not give them that power over you. It is a calculated move, designed to break you down and make you give them what they want (and their wants are without end). They will never be satisfied. Remember this. The more you give, the more they want. It will never end until you end it. Recharge this weekend. Do something for yourself, even if it is turning off the phone and refusing their calls. Do something relaxing or fun. Whatever you need for your mental and physical health. You are important. I'm sorry they ruined your rare night out at a restaurant. That is so selfish of them. You have a right to be angry. So be angry. Put the blame where it belongs--on them. I think you have spent way too much time blaming yourself. If your son makes a credible suicide threat, call 911. Many of our Difficult Child's have done this. Usually when the authorities are sent to their home, the threats end. As far as the apartment goes, I would weigh the options that you have, and choose the one that works best for you. Call the apartment complex Monday and figure out your options for extricating yourself from this situation. The goal is getting yourself untangled financially from them. If the car is in bad shape and the bill is unreasonable, you might consider buying them a months bus pass instead. Or, nothing at all if the money needs to be diverted to other things, like getting them removed from the apartment, or getting it cleaned out after they are gone. I don't think I would pay for any car repairs or a bus pass or anything at all until they put in the 30-day notice at the apartment. I would make that non-negotiable. Get some rest this weekend. Apple [/QUOTE]
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