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Alone and the saga goes on and on...when I thought there was hope
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<blockquote data-quote="RN0441" data-source="post: 722814" data-attributes="member: 15032"><p>Lost</p><p></p><p>So sorry you feeling helpless again. We all have been there.</p><p></p><p>It sounds like your son has a drinking problem. If you keep rescuing him from HIM, he will continue to follow the same pattern. Your helping will only prolong the inevitable.</p><p></p><p>Our son also would do well for three months or so at a time and accomplish some things and then BAM right back to where he started. He'd get high and then lose the job, the college class, you name it.</p><p></p><p>This was a cycle for him (us) that went on for six years until we said no more.</p><p></p><p>If he chooses to drink alcohol, not be responsible at his job or his apartment, how can YOU fix it? How can YOU fix him?</p><p></p><p>A lot of it has to do with immaturity but in reality THAT in itself is no excuse.</p><p></p><p>You know what you need to do I think. It is tough stuff but as everyone on here has taught me that my son need to adult and stop relying on his parents to clean up his messes. </p><p></p><p>If your husband has tuned you out, perhaps you can see a therapist or go to a group meeting to get support for yourself. You matter too. My therapist helped me create firm but loving boundaries and I think in the end it is helping our son too.</p><p></p><p>Good luck.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="RN0441, post: 722814, member: 15032"] Lost So sorry you feeling helpless again. We all have been there. It sounds like your son has a drinking problem. If you keep rescuing him from HIM, he will continue to follow the same pattern. Your helping will only prolong the inevitable. Our son also would do well for three months or so at a time and accomplish some things and then BAM right back to where he started. He'd get high and then lose the job, the college class, you name it. This was a cycle for him (us) that went on for six years until we said no more. If he chooses to drink alcohol, not be responsible at his job or his apartment, how can YOU fix it? How can YOU fix him? A lot of it has to do with immaturity but in reality THAT in itself is no excuse. You know what you need to do I think. It is tough stuff but as everyone on here has taught me that my son need to adult and stop relying on his parents to clean up his messes. If your husband has tuned you out, perhaps you can see a therapist or go to a group meeting to get support for yourself. You matter too. My therapist helped me create firm but loving boundaries and I think in the end it is helping our son too. Good luck. [/QUOTE]
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