We've all heard it before spanking doesn't work, and difficult child's don't respond to normal behavior modification strategies like normal kids......So, when you're at your limit and they're still in your face defiant cussing egging you on, what do you guys do? Since difficult child's medication's were changed last week things at home are rough again (maybe to lax a word). He's completely argumentive, defiant to the end, impulsive, and truly is testing me on EVERYTHING.......all he is getting now is negative attention because he WON'T STOP!!!! I don't even get the opportunity to give him any possitive attention, because he goes from one bad thing to the next in a total whirlwind. He's a constant motion of running in the house, jumping on the furniture, opening doors, going through toys and clothes and making a huge mess, rough housing with easy child and getting him now all hyper and destructive, then fighting with easy child, then biting easy child, going through my papers and files on my desk, running outside and then inside (tracking in mud EVERYWHERE), letting the door fly in the wind where it almost came off (instead of holding it and closing it), becoming a whirlwind when I TRY to do a SMALL 20 minute aerobic video (for my health and sanity, but instead I'm having to stop the tape and monitor him, then start the tape, then stop it again....So last night I decided that I'm not doing my excersie after work anymore, which I started because difficult child and easy child WANTED to do it with me, and I thought that would be a healthy thing for them, and I'd have quality time with them, and I thought it would tire them out at night....but difficult child got bored on the third time and is now doing everything to interrupt it and then he getts easy child into the hyper interrupt mode, so I really can't do it), this goes on and on and on and on until bed time. HE NEVER STOPS..says he will..BUT NEVER DOES. Due to this he's constantly in time-outs, then groundings, then privaleges taken away, etc. If he sees that my attention is minutly on something, he does anything and EVERYTHING that he's not allowed to do, and I'm now constantly saying, "Stop it, stop it, stop it, STOP IT....." AND he just keeps it up. He pushes me to the point where I want to pummel him, but I put him in time-out (instead) AND he STILL keeps it up. Leaves the room, trashing the room, calling me names, screaming like he's being tortured (over and over again). My g-d what people must think. Then I yell at him to "STOP IT", because it literally hurts my ears and is giving me a headache, and I can't take it anymore. It literally drives me crazy. What do you guys do when you feel like pummeling them to make them stop??? Normal consequences for them DO NOT WORK, what does? by the way, I ask his babysitter every day how he acts with her, with his tutor and therapist, with the children in her neighborhood (because I've hired her to watch him and take him to his appointments so I can try and work and not lose my job)...and she said he's doing fine. Only two small outburst last week, but he quickly can turn himself around. WHAT???????? So "I" get all the crap???????? What's the deal????? Can anyone answer that?