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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 36369" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>What I had to do with T was find something that was important to Him. Normal punishments rarely had much effect on him. Especially when he was young. He would get up from time out and proceed right on to something else.</p><p></p><p>I had to sit down and out think him by getting creative. T went thru a long phase where leaving him alone for even a second was inviting disaster. So he wound up grounded to my side for a day. If the next day started out the same, he was grounded to my side again that day. He could play or whatever, just had to do it right next to me. T was a Star Trek addict. So I could use that. If he and he would lose the privilege of watching an episode. Stuff like that. I found keeping punishment small and to the point also helped. Grounding T for a week only confused him. By the end of the afternoon he'd forget why he was being punished.</p><p></p><p>Most importantly I had to learn to ignore some of the little stuff just so I wasn't always correcting his behavior. If all you're doing is critisizing, kids tune you out and stop hearing you. I also used redirection ALOT. If T had the energy to run around the house like he had a bee in his pants, I'd find something for him to burn off that energy. And when it really got to me, I'd use a "shock technique". I'd stop whatever I was doing and start doing exactly what he was doing. If he was jumping and screaming on the couch, I'd jump and scream on the couch. This is a good way to vent your frustration too, by the way. lol But it usually ended up with both of us cracking up because I looked pretty stupid. Which let me point out to T that he also looked silly doing it.</p><p></p><p>I still use some of these same techniques today, although he's going to be 21. They still work. :wink: Of course he's at about the maturity of a 12 yr old at the moment.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 36369, member: 84"] What I had to do with T was find something that was important to Him. Normal punishments rarely had much effect on him. Especially when he was young. He would get up from time out and proceed right on to something else. I had to sit down and out think him by getting creative. T went thru a long phase where leaving him alone for even a second was inviting disaster. So he wound up grounded to my side for a day. If the next day started out the same, he was grounded to my side again that day. He could play or whatever, just had to do it right next to me. T was a Star Trek addict. So I could use that. If he and he would lose the privilege of watching an episode. Stuff like that. I found keeping punishment small and to the point also helped. Grounding T for a week only confused him. By the end of the afternoon he'd forget why he was being punished. Most importantly I had to learn to ignore some of the little stuff just so I wasn't always correcting his behavior. If all you're doing is critisizing, kids tune you out and stop hearing you. I also used redirection ALOT. If T had the energy to run around the house like he had a bee in his pants, I'd find something for him to burn off that energy. And when it really got to me, I'd use a "shock technique". I'd stop whatever I was doing and start doing exactly what he was doing. If he was jumping and screaming on the couch, I'd jump and scream on the couch. This is a good way to vent your frustration too, by the way. lol But it usually ended up with both of us cracking up because I looked pretty stupid. Which let me point out to T that he also looked silly doing it. I still use some of these same techniques today, although he's going to be 21. They still work. [img]:wink:[/img] Of course he's at about the maturity of a 12 yr old at the moment. [/QUOTE]
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