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<blockquote data-quote="timer lady" data-source="post: 36549" data-attributes="member: 393"><p>I only know what "sometimes" works here - kt is informed there is no argument. She is asked to redo that. It may take her a bit, but she generally complies.</p><p></p><p>We have slowly been introducing consequences for choices. in my humble opinion, for our difficult children, it's a maturity thing. Consequences never made an impact on kt or wm. As they have matured, losing a privilege, i.e. going to the park, favorite television show) made them connect the dots, if you will.</p><p></p><p>Before this year, it was a matter of redirection, modeling good choices & lots & lots of "redo"s. kt & wm are both learning to stop & ask for a redo before I even have to say anything. kt will say something sassy, catches herself & apologizes.</p><p></p><p>Again, up until now consequences made little impact - so we worked on something that might make a difference. Now, we are teaching responsibility for choices; lay out the choices & possible consequences for choices made & practice this over & over. (Real life doesn't allow for out of control actions with-o a consequence so now is the time.)</p><p></p><p>wm has learned when he is escalating to just stop & put his head down on the table. "I need to center myself, mom". Fine with me, son.</p><p></p><p>Just something to consider.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="timer lady, post: 36549, member: 393"] I only know what "sometimes" works here - kt is informed there is no argument. She is asked to redo that. It may take her a bit, but she generally complies. We have slowly been introducing consequences for choices. in my humble opinion, for our difficult children, it's a maturity thing. Consequences never made an impact on kt or wm. As they have matured, losing a privilege, i.e. going to the park, favorite television show) made them connect the dots, if you will. Before this year, it was a matter of redirection, modeling good choices & lots & lots of "redo"s. kt & wm are both learning to stop & ask for a redo before I even have to say anything. kt will say something sassy, catches herself & apologizes. Again, up until now consequences made little impact - so we worked on something that might make a difference. Now, we are teaching responsibility for choices; lay out the choices & possible consequences for choices made & practice this over & over. (Real life doesn't allow for out of control actions with-o a consequence so now is the time.) wm has learned when he is escalating to just stop & put his head down on the table. "I need to center myself, mom". Fine with me, son. Just something to consider. [/QUOTE]
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