Am I doing the right thing

[lrdfrost]

My mother is 53 years old for the last year has been living with my fiancée and myself.i love her with all my heart.shes mentally ill has been committed 6 times over the last 4 years she goes for a week to 3 and gets released with medication upon release stops taking them. Everyday she gets worse and refuses to take medicine or see a shrink. Recently she tried to choke my fiancée and the cops got called but to no avail told me I could go to the magistrate and have her committed again 1-3 weeks out and quits taking medicine back to the same stuff I told her recently she could get help or would have to move out she choose to move out with nowhere else to go. I am riddled with guilt worried sick but I know she has to get help I told her she was more than welcome to stay if she would just see someone regularly I know our relationship can't take much more from this woman what else can I do


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[Wiped Out]

Welcome Irdfrost,

Things sound very difficult. This forum is more for parents who have children that are difficult. Is there a public health nurse that can make sure she is taking her medications?

 

[lrdfrost]

No taking medications is seldomly enforced by the state once there out of the facility mandatory out patient programs are only put into place when the severely hurt someone


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[DammitJanet]

I would post over in Parent Emeritus even though we really are geared towards parents dealing with adult children your situation is almost the same. I wonder if there are any online forums for adults taking care of mentally ill parents? Dont know the answer there.

However...I do think you are a wonderful daughter. My mother had some severe psychiatric issues that were undiagnosed and I could have never lived with her. I was only able to have her move in with me when she became ill with alzheimers because she had no clue who I was...lol.

 

[BusynMember]

LOLOL, Janet. My mom was finally nice to me too when she had brain cancer and had no idea who I was. I mean, it's not funny, but it is...in a way.