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<blockquote data-quote="Kalahou" data-source="post: 727054" data-attributes="member: 19617"><p>This is good to plant seeds for good habits, and for receptive participants, the practiced good habits “<em>while they are there</em>” may carry over to when they are “<em>no longer there</em>.” Only time will tell, as they grow and get into other settings and other routines.</p><p></p><p>I hope you are right with this RN. Only time will tell down the road when he is released and shows it in independent living. We take one day at a time.</p><p></p><p></p><p>I so agree with these persepectives. It is true for a child of any age, when they are still in the parent / child roles. (<em>as opposed perhaps to when an adult child may have to be the parents’ caregiver and roles are then somewhat reversed.)</em> Maturing and growing independent young adult children do not want to live with parents (whether they realize it or not). And once they have been away and lived elsewhere (even in jail, sober house settings, dorms, military, etc). Then if and when they come back, in many cases it makes it even harder for them to live with parents, and also even harder to leave again.</p><p>Once DCs have been away, and not been daily involved with parents setting house rules / schedules and plans etc., then when they come back to that, there is an underlying friction / resentment and watchfulness of both parties ~ not good.</p><p></p><p>So many questions, so many variables and no set answers ! Sigh !</p><p>Take care RN. Bless ~ ~ Ka la hou</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Kalahou, post: 727054, member: 19617"] This is good to plant seeds for good habits, and for receptive participants, the practiced good habits “[I]while they are there[/I]” may carry over to when they are “[I]no longer there[/I].” Only time will tell, as they grow and get into other settings and other routines. I hope you are right with this RN. Only time will tell down the road when he is released and shows it in independent living. We take one day at a time. I so agree with these persepectives. It is true for a child of any age, when they are still in the parent / child roles. ([I]as opposed perhaps to when an adult child may have to be the parents’ caregiver and roles are then somewhat reversed.)[/I] Maturing and growing independent young adult children do not want to live with parents (whether they realize it or not). And once they have been away and lived elsewhere (even in jail, sober house settings, dorms, military, etc). Then if and when they come back, in many cases it makes it even harder for them to live with parents, and also even harder to leave again. Once DCs have been away, and not been daily involved with parents setting house rules / schedules and plans etc., then when they come back to that, there is an underlying friction / resentment and watchfulness of both parties ~ not good. So many questions, so many variables and no set answers ! Sigh ! Take care RN. Bless ~ ~ Ka la hou [/QUOTE]
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