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Am I hitching a free ride?
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<blockquote data-quote="Echolette" data-source="post: 648735" data-attributes="member: 17269"><p>That is a really interesting question, and I appreciate your bringing this up. I have to say, I was you stepson's mom for a while...and the depth of my frustration and bitterness at how I was singlehandedly keeping the s*(&^*t off everyone elses shoes was exhausting. At some point,k after I joined this forum about 1 year and 1/2 ago, I stepped back..and my son started talking to other members of the family, needing contact, support, money, whatever. They then all turned to me to express surprise and frustration at how needy my son was...and I was both guilty and annoyed. It was an interesting cycle.</p><p></p><p>I'm not sure what I learned from it, other than the fact that they had no idea how exhausting he was.</p><p></p><p>My SO took care of his severely mentally ill mom all by himself from when was 13. His dad, his step mom, various adults around him often said "wow, I am so sorry for you, this is very hard" but no one helped or stepped in. He has a lot of swallowed anger around that (and is a major enabler now...)</p><p></p><p>I guess...I guess it is an interesting topic! I guess you could acknowledge to her that you see how hard this is. I don't think you should take on or take over her role..I'm not sure her enabling is helping him in the long run. </p><p></p><p>I'll be interested in what the others have to say.</p><p></p><p>Echo</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Echolette, post: 648735, member: 17269"] That is a really interesting question, and I appreciate your bringing this up. I have to say, I was you stepson's mom for a while...and the depth of my frustration and bitterness at how I was singlehandedly keeping the s*(&^*t off everyone elses shoes was exhausting. At some point,k after I joined this forum about 1 year and 1/2 ago, I stepped back..and my son started talking to other members of the family, needing contact, support, money, whatever. They then all turned to me to express surprise and frustration at how needy my son was...and I was both guilty and annoyed. It was an interesting cycle. I'm not sure what I learned from it, other than the fact that they had no idea how exhausting he was. My SO took care of his severely mentally ill mom all by himself from when was 13. His dad, his step mom, various adults around him often said "wow, I am so sorry for you, this is very hard" but no one helped or stepped in. He has a lot of swallowed anger around that (and is a major enabler now...) I guess...I guess it is an interesting topic! I guess you could acknowledge to her that you see how hard this is. I don't think you should take on or take over her role..I'm not sure her enabling is helping him in the long run. I'll be interested in what the others have to say. Echo [/QUOTE]
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