I have spoken with them about this in the past. I get this blank look like they don't know what I mean, then they say of course I am welcome in the family, blah blah blah and ten seconds later they are back to acting as if I either don't exist or I am not worthy of anything. I have bent over backward to fit in, but nothing is good enough.
A confrontation is simply ineffective with husband's family, as is an open, honest conversation. So now, I am going to just do my best to stay home. It isn't like I haven't had a migraine on every major holiday for most of my life.
Oh, and the migraines are not due to repressing feelings. They are due to several medical conditions and a very long ugly family history of migraines. I just got the worst of it and become tolerant of the medications to prevent migraines very rapidly. I get them regardless of emotional stress and/or upset.
A confrontation is simply ineffective with husband's family, as is an open, honest conversation. So now, I am going to just do my best to stay home. It isn't like I haven't had a migraine on every major holiday for most of my life.
Oh, and the migraines are not due to repressing feelings. They are due to several medical conditions and a very long ugly family history of migraines. I just got the worst of it and become tolerant of the medications to prevent migraines very rapidly. I get them regardless of emotional stress and/or upset.