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<blockquote data-quote="GuideMe" data-source="post: 642311" data-attributes="member: 18233"><p>Well, if it is going to make matters worse for you, than don't bother doing it. We all have different situations and any advice we have and give must be used with caution by the recipient. I just figured , in her situation, she don't need these people, she don't depend on them for anything, what is the worse that could happen that isn't already happening right now? Are they going to stop talking to her? Think bad about her? Talk about about her? Oh wow, they are already doing that to her now. What could be worse than what they are doing to her right now? I see confronting the issue, in this situation, can only bring positive for Susie. However, I could see if it were a different situation, such as, the issue you have with someone is someone you depend on or could literally make your life worse and more miserable than it is now, , then I would have a different response. Don't know what it would be, but it would be different. It would be the response you are having now most likely.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>As I said, it's not about telling them off. I never said that. It could be just talking about it, coming to terms, bringing closure, clearing the air, etc. etc. I think I made that pretty clear in my posts because in the end, I do want to have a good relationship with everyone. Who doesn't? However, if that doesn't happen, at least you got to say how you feel and you don't have to be "fake" anymore. Good can come out of addressing an issue with someone. Me and my sis in law had it out two months ago, and you know what? We are the better for it. We don't talk anymore, but it feels good we don't have to be fake with each other anymore. When we are around the family, she is nice to me and I am nice to her for the kids sake and we both understand that. She proved that to me on Thanksgiving because that's the first time we saw each other since the argument. I don't have to have the headache of pretending to be friends with her and nor she with me. We dont like each other right now, that's it. If it changes in the future, great, if it doesn't , I'm ok with that too. It's been such a RELIEF for me for us to have be honest with each other. We had a pretty nasty argument, but we stopped it before it got worse and we respected each other at the end of it even though we totally disagreed with each other. It didn't go beyond what it needed to go. No one else got dragged into it. No one was out for blood at the end of it. It was the perfect argument , lol.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Haha, I don't think I beat you. I think my sleeping schedule has just been thrown off again. I was doing good for a while, but as usual, it changes every few weeks. Now I'm up all night and sleeping during the day. Pretty soon, I will be moving. Yikes.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="GuideMe, post: 642311, member: 18233"] Well, if it is going to make matters worse for you, than don't bother doing it. We all have different situations and any advice we have and give must be used with caution by the recipient. I just figured , in her situation, she don't need these people, she don't depend on them for anything, what is the worse that could happen that isn't already happening right now? Are they going to stop talking to her? Think bad about her? Talk about about her? Oh wow, they are already doing that to her now. What could be worse than what they are doing to her right now? I see confronting the issue, in this situation, can only bring positive for Susie. However, I could see if it were a different situation, such as, the issue you have with someone is someone you depend on or could literally make your life worse and more miserable than it is now, , then I would have a different response. Don't know what it would be, but it would be different. It would be the response you are having now most likely. As I said, it's not about telling them off. I never said that. It could be just talking about it, coming to terms, bringing closure, clearing the air, etc. etc. I think I made that pretty clear in my posts because in the end, I do want to have a good relationship with everyone. Who doesn't? However, if that doesn't happen, at least you got to say how you feel and you don't have to be "fake" anymore. Good can come out of addressing an issue with someone. Me and my sis in law had it out two months ago, and you know what? We are the better for it. We don't talk anymore, but it feels good we don't have to be fake with each other anymore. When we are around the family, she is nice to me and I am nice to her for the kids sake and we both understand that. She proved that to me on Thanksgiving because that's the first time we saw each other since the argument. I don't have to have the headache of pretending to be friends with her and nor she with me. We dont like each other right now, that's it. If it changes in the future, great, if it doesn't , I'm ok with that too. It's been such a RELIEF for me for us to have be honest with each other. We had a pretty nasty argument, but we stopped it before it got worse and we respected each other at the end of it even though we totally disagreed with each other. It didn't go beyond what it needed to go. No one else got dragged into it. No one was out for blood at the end of it. It was the perfect argument , lol. Haha, I don't think I beat you. I think my sleeping schedule has just been thrown off again. I was doing good for a while, but as usual, it changes every few weeks. Now I'm up all night and sleeping during the day. Pretty soon, I will be moving. Yikes. [/QUOTE]
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