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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 685849" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Oops. See you adopted her young, but she could still have attachment issues. Now im thinking more of fetal alcohol spectrum and drug abuse in utero and the whole permanant brain damage issue. You can not really parent anyone with this sort of brain damage. They do not understand right from wrong and can't learn well, even if they have a normal IQ. They often end up in jail for the same crime over and over again because they cant learn from their mistakes. Often they have lots of sex because no matter how often you explain, they dont understand why they should snd since, for the same reason, they dont understand why they shouldnt drink or do drugs they also have babies drug/alcohol affected.</p><p></p><p>Something beyond the normal diagnosis. Is wrong with your daughter. Not your fault but doesnt make it easier to live with.</p><p></p><p>Take care, my friend. Call any adoption angecy to ask who in your community understands and can dianose both attachment and drug exposure in utero issues. Regular psychiatrists just dont know much about it. You need an informed team and still...alcohol exposure problems can't be overturned. Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) is gutwrenching and is hard to change too and requires money, and a HUGE commitment on your part. The therapies for Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) are not perfect and all are controversial.</p><p></p><p>Again...good luck. My family gets it. Do you what is best for the majority. That's my advice and opinion. She may never be able to adjust to ANY family life and not desire a family. Residential treatment may suit her best or a hardcore foster home that will not expect love from her. Love repels some of these kids. They do worse around people with those expectations.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 685849, member: 1550"] Oops. See you adopted her young, but she could still have attachment issues. Now im thinking more of fetal alcohol spectrum and drug abuse in utero and the whole permanant brain damage issue. You can not really parent anyone with this sort of brain damage. They do not understand right from wrong and can't learn well, even if they have a normal IQ. They often end up in jail for the same crime over and over again because they cant learn from their mistakes. Often they have lots of sex because no matter how often you explain, they dont understand why they should snd since, for the same reason, they dont understand why they shouldnt drink or do drugs they also have babies drug/alcohol affected. Something beyond the normal diagnosis. Is wrong with your daughter. Not your fault but doesnt make it easier to live with. Take care, my friend. Call any adoption angecy to ask who in your community understands and can dianose both attachment and drug exposure in utero issues. Regular psychiatrists just dont know much about it. You need an informed team and still...alcohol exposure problems can't be overturned. Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) is gutwrenching and is hard to change too and requires money, and a HUGE commitment on your part. The therapies for Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) are not perfect and all are controversial. Again...good luck. My family gets it. Do you what is best for the majority. That's my advice and opinion. She may never be able to adjust to ANY family life and not desire a family. Residential treatment may suit her best or a hardcore foster home that will not expect love from her. Love repels some of these kids. They do worse around people with those expectations. [/QUOTE]
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