lovemysons
Well-Known Member
Good Morning DDD,
Thank you for the hug...I needed that.
As for Parole requirements: 2 times a week AA meetings. 2 times a month visit Parole office...Drug tests. Parole officer visits home once a month. 60 to 90 days on Monitor...don't know curfew. However, young difficult child will only be able to go anywwere based on me driving him. Parole officer did say he could be at work as late as 8pm...but he must sleep at our house (already a problem as daughter in law and young difficult child wanted to spend their first night in a hotel as husband and I are giving daughter in law $200 to pick up young difficult child at prison).
I'm going to go ahead and write up at least an Agreement of Expectations...to include:
1) comply with Parole requirements
2) No drinking or pain medications
3) Work
4) Pay $200 a month for rent (we're actually saving this for young difficult child upon his departure from our home)
5) No Shoes Food or Drink on carpet
6) daughter in law and kids cannot live with us and overnight visits can only take place after 6pm on Friday/Saturday nights. Overnight visits HAVE to be discussed in advance.
7) No phone or computer use after 8pm (regardless of when young difficult child gets home from work)
husband said last night that I am the one who wants young difficult child home. So I will be the one who has to remind, pick up after, take to work, pick up from work, take to AA meetings, take to Parole office, etc etc etc.
I am still upset with husband as he is Scott Free in this whole deal. Like I said I don't want him to feel any right to jump on young difficult child case about Anything...I will address things with young difficult child as they come up.
Getting ready to go to my mom's where daughter in law and the grandbabies will be there. We are all headed to a community center where there will be Mr and Mrs Santa Claus and pics with them, brunch, and activities for the kids.
I did get alittle sleep last night, but still "hemorraging". husband has left for the day to see easy child at a college bowling tournament.
Tomorrow it begins.
I will take things as they come, one at a time. Trying to breathe, stay calm.
Thank you all for being my friend and caring.
Love,
LMS
Thank you for the hug...I needed that.
As for Parole requirements: 2 times a week AA meetings. 2 times a month visit Parole office...Drug tests. Parole officer visits home once a month. 60 to 90 days on Monitor...don't know curfew. However, young difficult child will only be able to go anywwere based on me driving him. Parole officer did say he could be at work as late as 8pm...but he must sleep at our house (already a problem as daughter in law and young difficult child wanted to spend their first night in a hotel as husband and I are giving daughter in law $200 to pick up young difficult child at prison).
I'm going to go ahead and write up at least an Agreement of Expectations...to include:
1) comply with Parole requirements
2) No drinking or pain medications
3) Work
4) Pay $200 a month for rent (we're actually saving this for young difficult child upon his departure from our home)
5) No Shoes Food or Drink on carpet
6) daughter in law and kids cannot live with us and overnight visits can only take place after 6pm on Friday/Saturday nights. Overnight visits HAVE to be discussed in advance.
7) No phone or computer use after 8pm (regardless of when young difficult child gets home from work)
husband said last night that I am the one who wants young difficult child home. So I will be the one who has to remind, pick up after, take to work, pick up from work, take to AA meetings, take to Parole office, etc etc etc.
I am still upset with husband as he is Scott Free in this whole deal. Like I said I don't want him to feel any right to jump on young difficult child case about Anything...I will address things with young difficult child as they come up.
Getting ready to go to my mom's where daughter in law and the grandbabies will be there. We are all headed to a community center where there will be Mr and Mrs Santa Claus and pics with them, brunch, and activities for the kids.
I did get alittle sleep last night, but still "hemorraging". husband has left for the day to see easy child at a college bowling tournament.
Tomorrow it begins.
I will take things as they come, one at a time. Trying to breathe, stay calm.
Thank you all for being my friend and caring.
Love,
LMS