So as most of you know difficult child #1 is no longer in our home. After threatening my life he was in the hospital, then the shelter, and just last week was moved to a 6 month PCR program. I was supposed to visit him on Sunday but my father, who is staying with us, was having trouble breathing. My father had a liver transplant 2 years ago but has been suffering from some after effects and is still a very sick man. I chose to stay home with him in case he needed me to take him to the hospital. difficult child freaked out and hung up on me. He then called me back and told me how angry he is at me and then hung up on me again. He now refuses to speak to me. I know he expects a visit this coming weekend but in all honesty I don't want to go visit him. He put us through living hell all summer long and was very rude to me last weekend because I had an emergency and couldn't get there to bring him his game boy. I'm at the point now where I really want to take a step back and let him work on his issues alone for a while. I love my son and miss him but I can't let everything else in my life go just because he's in the situation he's in now. He will be 18 next July and he needs to start taking responsibility for his actions. Am I wrong for feeling this way?